Delayed replies on purpose

[MFD000]

So you're talking to a guy online or an app, because of course, he messages you, and you respond right back. His response is delayed. You respond, wait another 20 minutes. The cycle continues. I always have my phone on me and usually respond fairly quickly, but I seem to be in the minority. Is there some kind of "secret gay thing" I don't know about? Is responding right away against the "code"?
I've always wondered this and here seems a good place to ask.

[IanSaysHi]

Usually I respond to someone straight away unless I'm doing one of three things at the same time:
1) Talking to someone else
2) Walking somewhere
3) Killing things (on my XBox - those combo attacks have to be timed precisely and if I end up texting you instead of pressing Y + B then I'll probably resent you a little. For two minutes.)

[MFD000]

Usually I respond to someone straight away unless I'm doing one of three things at the same time:
1) Talking to someone else
2) Walking somewhere
3) Killing things (on my XBox - those combo attacks have to be timed precisely and if I end up texting you instead of pressing Y + B then I'll probably resent you a little. For two minutes.)

I agree with you 100%. I usually respond when I get messages also, especially if you're obviously trying to attract someone. I try not to take it as a sign of disinterest, but I don't know what else to make of it. I've tried to purposely delay my messages, but it seems so childish to do....

[IanSaysHi]

If you sent the last message I'd just wait until they respond - the ball is in their court. The last thing you want to do is send 'is everything okay' messages as these will put the guy off. Just give them the benefit of the doubt - most people can't be bothered to play games like delaying messages on purpose because it's boring. It probably just means they're also messaging other people at the same time or multitasking. Just play it cool...

[MFD000]

Yeah that's what I do nowadays because I've seen it a ton of times. I definitely understand life happening, of course, but long delays in between messages are a different story.
Especially because the majority of people of our generation, late-20's or so are attached to a smart phone.

[starlight]

This is one of my arguments, and the delays get longer to the point i just deleted their number i have swapped numbers, just like a guy at the gym last year. Smart phones attached to face yet not reply, same as with FB, posting and reading your PM's yet no reply. I give up after so long as if they were interested in you as a friend or anything more they would drop what they are doing to chat or at least explain why they cant.

[Insertnamehere]

Beats the hell out of me.

I usually respond whever I'm not busy...I always assume someone else might be busy too, so I don't go ballistic over it.

But you know, when it's been a month and then two....yeah, I f*cking got it loud and clear you piece of sh*t.

So it really depends I suppose.

The best thing you can do is wait for a response. If something happened, they were busy they will tell you something.

If not, well.....silence speaks volumes too.

[SilverBullet]

on dateing websites I sometimes do the 20 minutes wait, It might be 5 minutes or soo before I look back, THEN I will think about my response to make sure I worded it in a manner best projecting my intent IE
will I seem to be hitting on him if I say this, can I make it more tame? can that word be taken a different way? Then I sit wording my reply get bored and with it then come back .
So after a few minutes break, several rough drafts you get "hi" its about a 20 minute process ;P

[jimcrackcorn]

They probably get overexcited and are unable to reply right away because their hands are to jittery to type a text. Give them some time to get their jitters settled down.

It's either that,,, or they have a husband nearby who they must get rid of first...

Well, that's my excuse for not texting right away (Big Grin)

Just kidding..... Many people take a while to form their thoughts before replying. It can take a little extra time to make sure they get the wording right.

[trywait]

my fault is that I type a response and forget to hit "send" .... it just sits there in draft for a while