Considering becomming an escort, need advice! Serious replies only

[trent69]

Hey guys, I have only just come to terms with my sexuality and am thinking of becoming a gay escort. I love being f***ed and rimmed and don't mind being a top every now and then but I hate working. I want to work for myself and decided this is the best way to go about it. I am 8" cut and pretty thick too. How do I do it? Any tips?

I am thinking of advertising on aussierentboys com au or rentboyaustralia com Not sure which one. Aussie rent boys looks a lot nicer but rentboyaustralia has been around for longer.

How do you snag regular clients? What lines need to be drawn between professional and personal?

Should I go to them or should they come to me?

Really need someone to help guide me through this.

Please don't reply or msg asking how much or if we can meet, I am here purely for advice.

[megumidesu]

if you're totally serious about it , i would take some kind of self defense class before you start . because it's a pretty dangerous profession and you want to make sure you're prepared for the worst ~

it's better to meet at a neutral location like a hotel or something . you don't want someone crazy finding out where you live and you don't want to be in a place where they have the upper hand if they turn out to be not so nice ~

buy a separate phone , too . keep your regular number for friends / family / etc and have an extra one for work . i actually think this about most jobs , though lol

as with anything at all , be really really careful all the time. and remember that chances are pretty high that the majority of clients will be people who you're not very attracted to . you'd be the luckiest person in the world if every client you get is a super sexy awesome guy...

[OrphanPip]

I have no firsthand experience of escorts, but having talked with people who have worked in prostitution and/or the porn industry, in general people's experiences are not overall positive. I'd suggest you find some other line of work.

If you're going to do it you should use a false name. You don't want an escort ad to come up if someone googles you.

[LONDONER]

My advice: Don't.

[Tyrion]

You've just come to terms with your sexuality and you want to become an escort and have sex with random strangers?

Uh.. sounds like a bad idea.. but then again I find the whole idea of escorting.. uh.. off-putting.

I know my comment wasn't at all helpful, and probably sounds judgmental.. so my bad.

[Nick9]

Hey guys, I have only just come to terms with my sexuality

I hate working.

These two statements make me think that the job will not be for you.

[Lilmy87]

Maybe talk with some other guys who do it, find out about the realities of it? It may not be as you imagine; for one thing, I don't think sex is the same if you are not doing it for love/passion and you don't find the guy attractive. I suppose you can find those guys through the same channels from which you plan to sell your services. I am sure they can also give lots of other useful advice.

Also, get robust advice about sexual health.

Slightly wondering if this is some furtive effort to promote the sites you mentioned, but I could be wrong.

[MisterTinkles]

Bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, BAD idea.

You need to find out who YOU are first. You need to know for sure what it is you want out of life and a possible mate. You need to kn ow whats right and wrong for you, before you do anything this serious.

You may think its an easy job, but its going to play with your mind and it is very stressful.

You will learn these things will stay in your mind in a "job" like this--

*Is this client going to be "clean"? You have to realize most of these people who pay for sex have done it with hundreds, if not thousands of different people. They could be diseased beyond all medical help, and you wouldn't know it until its too late.

*Is this going to be "safe"? Some of these people hire sex for sale people because they are extremely depraved, violent, and even sadistic. Some of them will even drug you without you knowing it, to get you hooked on drugs, or to abuse you while you are unconscious. The next client could be your last.

*Am I going to be sent to jail? Get ready to save your money for paying off the police, paying fines, tickets, and jail time. AND it goes on your record, so if you plan to get a REAL job in the future, you may not be able too.


Most of the people in the sex for sale industry have a short life span. Yes, there are some who live to an old age, but those are extremely rare cases. Disease, drugs, alcoholism, violence, and abuse of all sorts will deteriorate your body, mind, and soul. Are you ready for that?

[Lalo]

FYI- I have no prejudgments about prostitution or sex in general. But I do have some concerns for you. They are:

1. What Megumidesu said- Be prepared to defend yourself. If you get involved in this line of work, I absolutely GUARANTEE that you will be in some situations where you will need to defend yourself.
2. Recognize that turning sex into a job means sacrificing your own needs. You state in your post what you like. Well, really that has absolutely no bearing on the subject. Some guys will want you to top, some will want you to bottom, some will want you to do other things. Have you explored any alternative sex practices? How do you feel about b&d, s&m, scat, watersports, role playing, masturbation, group scenes, fetishes? What are you willing to do to satisfy your customer? Can you separate in your mind that "paid sex" is NOT about your pleasure and is completely about your client's pleasure?
3. Safe Sex- What are you willing to do to protect yourself? What practices are "safe"? Aside from AIDS, how will you protect yourself from Hepatitis, venereal warts, syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes? Do you know how to protect yourself and your partner? What would you do if you contracted a venereal disease? Do you have a medical plan for emergency situations?
4. What are the legalities of prostitution in your area? How will you keep yourself safe from prosecution under your country's laws?
5. Where will you meet your clients? Do you trust people enough to meet them in their own home or allow them to drive you to some place outside of your familiarity? Or would you establish meetings only on "neutral ground"? Who will be your "back-up" to call in the case of an emergency?
6. What are your personal feelings about drug and alcohol use? What do you do when a client wants to get you drunk or high? How do you react? What if they insist in order for you to get paid?

I guess the point that I am trying to make here is that prostitution is NOT an easy job! Aside from the inherent risks involved, it is also not accepted culturally, and could lead to alienating friends and family. Personally, I believe that it should be legalized, which would diminish a lot of the darker aspects. But are you really prepared for everything that it entails?

Also, what are your long range plans? Eventually, looks fade and clientele WILL move on to greener pastures (younger guys). What will you do then?

I hope that you seriously consider all of these things. Being an escort may seem glamorous at first, but it is a profession which is loaded with very serious pitfalls and life-threatening consequences.

[princealbertofb]

On the practical side I think Megumi has got all the right tips for you. Escorting might be an easy-money job, but honestly I don't think so. You have to be very level headed, try not to go down the drugs route, because that can lead to devastation. We've recently seen boys in the renting trade committing suicide, who knows what those drugs did to them, and what doing this job did to their sense of self worth.
Self-worth would be one of my issues. How much do you value your life over your sex-life? Don't believe for one moment that having sex with random strangers will all be fun. Much like shooting porn, I'd say that it's a JOB, and who says job, says work, not always pleasant work. How will you be able to deal with the fact that people are basically "using" you? Of course, you could just see it as you giving a social service to a population who needs it.

So the advice about keeping yourself healthy and trim seems a good one, as a marketing value but also for a sense of self worth. Treat your body as your temple, get the medical check ups, and the HIV tests, keep yourself clean and make sure your clients are as clean as you can deal with. Make them have a shower if necessary, or join them in one, if they are being obstreperous. Use condoms and lube, all the usual advice. Maybe you'd need to talk to a doctor who has experience with gay men who are relatively promiscuous. In any case do your homework. ( a GUM clinic or HIV testing centre, might be a good idea). Build a bit of muscle for looks (or if you're a swimmer, you're probably quite toned) and keep going to the gym, it'll probably help clear your head, at times. Have a good friend or some good friends around who are not in the business and who might tell you when you're going astray, and who'll tell you in time to quit, if necessary. Plus, as Megumi said, if you can defend yourself when with a difficult client, it might be just as well. If you ever feel sick, stay at home, stop the job for as long as it takes to be better again. You don't want to make yourself easier to contaminate, or weak from an untreated disease. While some diseases and sexually transmitted infections are easy to combat, if treated, they are likely to accumulate if your body is already tired or weakened. Listen to your doctor, get treated, and either move on, or get back onto the wagon once cured. By the way have you had a vaccine against hepatitis? That's a MUST. Ask your doctor.

I'd really go for the keeping private life and job life separate, and the hotel rooms seem to be the way to go, but maybe not affordable by all. Mind also that richer people are not necessarily the nicest either.

There is a film called Boy Culture in which the main protagonist explains how he handles it. Maybe there are clues for you there. A select number of clients that he trusts, and that he knows well enough. The rent boy becomes their fuck-buddy, as it were, but he's paid for the service.

As for pay, you'll have to decide on a rate that you're ready to charge. How much for what sort of job and for what time spent with them. I think I read or heard somewhere that it's a good trick to try not to come, but to please your client into coming (since that's what they are paying your for, initially), so that you can keep your stamina and libido for another client later in the day or night, and your erection powers. That makes perfect sense to me, but that's also why I say it's a job, not all fun and games.

Last but not least, consider that people don't often have much consideration for prostitutes and prostitution. Escort is just a pretty name for it, but in the end, it's just as badly considered and therefore you are at risk of being in dangerous or awkward situations.

What are your peoples skills like? Are you friendly, convincing, congenial, dynamic, quiet, altruistic, (unselfish)? How will you deal with a client who can't get it up? How will you deal with a client who wants you to do stuff you won't allow yourself to do?