Delayed replies on purpose

[TwisttheLeaf]

I have no idea. I mean, when Gid and I text or IM, I'm occasionally delayed in my responses, but its usually because I'm working or cooking or doing other things while messaging him, so my response time is slow or unpredictable as a result.

Now, intentionally delaying? I have no idea why they'd do that unless they just aren't interested and yet don't want to say as much

[MFD000]

I have no idea. I mean, when Gid and I text or IM, I'm occasionally delayed in my responses, but its usually because I'm working or cooking or doing other things while messaging him, so my response time is slow or unpredictable as a result.

Now, intentionally delaying? I have no idea why they'd do that unless they just aren't interested and yet don't want to say as much

I totally get people not being interested, but super crazy delays are still inappropriate. I would rather someone not reply in the first place. I guess it is all relative to how the conversation is playing out.

[Cridders88]

I wouldn't do it on purpose, certainly not if I was actually interested in the person. Sure, there may be times that I can't reply straight away, like if I'm at work or am otherwise busy. But to do it intentionally? What would be the point in that?

[Jettalove]

If I'm multi-tasking, I always have the courtesy to let them know that there may be some delays in my responses. I don't like it when they don't have the courtesy to do the same for me. I don't think it's delaying on purpose though, it's just that they are doing something else too. And if they are texting someone else simultaneously I can always tell...it's like a vibe that I pick up on based on the timing.

[Anocxu]

Hmm..
This thread has me thinking. .

So ..
When communicating with a guy you're interested in romantically .. I'm assuming there has to be an outline of when you ..or he.. is best available for conversation .

Example:

" Just to let you ..I work Monday to Friday 9-5" " I take lunch at 12-1" "I am home after 6 pm"
^^^^
Including these details should make communicating easier.

For my friends online ..
I try to send a message at least 3 - 5 times per week.
I also let them know .. message me if they need me ..anytime. . I'll respond timely.

For dating and hookup applications. . Your typical guy bounces conversations around from guy to guy ..they engage you whenever for whatever reason .. Bored , horny, you're the only one that responded.. and a list of randomness that makes it hard to figure out the right thing to do.. or if they are actually interested in you.

Spacing messages on purpose. .?

In regards to a romantic interest. .
As Ian said.. it's pretty much pointless. ..

Spacing e-mails with friends. .?
I do that sometimes. .
I've always thought a few days in between e-mails would give us something to talk about when we resume messages. . Unless the E-mail they sent prior ..included questions .

In general. .
Most gay men are guarded and a little cryptic. . So that makes it so much harder to understand their needs.

[MFD000]

Hmm..
This thread has me thinking. .

So ..
When communicating with a guy you're interested in romantically .. I'm assuming there has to be an outline of when you ..or he.. is best available for conversation .

Example:

" Just to let you ..I work Monday to Friday 9-5" " I take lunch at 12-1" "I am home after 6 pm"
^^^^
Including these details should make communicating easier.

For my friends online ..
I try to send a message at least 3 - 5 times per week.
I also let them know .. message me if they need me ..anytime. . I'll respond timely.

For dating and hookup applications. . Your typical guy bounces conversations around from guy to guy ..they engage you whenever for whatever reason .. Bored , horny, you're the only one that responded.. and a list of randomness that makes it hard to figure out the right thing to do.. or if they are actually interested in you.

Spacing messages on purpose. .?

In regards to a romantic interest. .
As Ian said.. it's pretty much pointless. ..

Spacing e-mails with friends. .?
I do that sometimes. .
I've always thought a few days in between e-mails would give us something to talk about when we resume messages. . Unless the E-mail they sent prior ..included questions .

In general. .
Most gay men are guarded and a little cryptic. . So that makes it so much harder to understand their needs.

My line of thinking is the longer the delay the smaller the likelihood that they're interested. The last guy that told me his schedule of availability blocked me the day before we were supposed to finally meet. Most gays, in my experience, lack the maturity to communicate.

[MFD000]

I wrote a reply that for some reason has to be "approved by a moderator"??

"My line of thinking is the longer the delay the smaller the likelihood that they're interested. The last guy that told me his schedule of availability blocked me the day before we were supposed to finally meet. Most gays, in my experience, lack the maturity to communicate."

[Anonymous]

I have had this happen on this site a few times, ignored and passed over by members. It makes you feel like shit.

[Anocxu]

I have had this happen on this site a few times, ignored and passed over by members. It makes you feel like shit.

Apologies whomever you are..
Most guys here are not mean..
I promise..

[Anonymous]

Apologies whomever you are..
Most guys here are not mean..
I promise..

There is some nice people but there are a lot of ignorant people who i have tried to speak to and with who have point black ignored me, im unsure i want to be here. Maybe its a personal attack or i have done something to them.