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you've had more coffee on your dates than i've had in my 32 years of life.
by the way, it's not decent to just blow a guy off without a single word. if it was just a date, it was just a date, but if a man asks you out again, at least have the basic common decency to tell him you're not interested.
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Fuzzy Wrote:It sounds like you take from but rarely give back. Everyone pays your tab the most notable things about the guys you dated were a house and a invisible boat and even though these guys are moving at their own speeds you complain they dont do all the work in initiation and cuddle you though you yourself are too shy to ask. It sounds like you met several guys that may really like you but you have shades on and cant see it, dont blame them if your too shy to ask for a cuddle you may very intimidate them!
Im not trying to be rude just pointing out what ive seen from your OP.
Try giving back to the relationship, show interest and if you want/dont want something TELL THEM, not all guys are mind readers and if I offered a date to you I too may suggest coffee because I wouldn't know you are sick of it.
I do give back in other ways and yes I want a man with a house because how do you have a relationship if you have nowhere intimate to go, that's the only reason
They did all really like me and I saw it, which puzzles me even more, am I made of glass. How many times can you go for a coffee and walk in the park!
I feel like killing myself
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The last guy I feel bad about but after our first date and he text again to ask if I want to go for coffee, something inside me broke.
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Oh well I will leave it here since none of you understand, there's more I can't put into words. . I knew this was pointless, thanks for confirming.
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Yeah its quite rude to tell somebody you have a boat and it turns out to be a caravan and you meet initially because they are local and they tell you they are moving soon to another part of the country, so why meet me, do you think I want a lonely long distance relationship... so I have to make an appointment to see you.
They all say "distance not a problem for the right guy"
"can I come over for a cuddle"
"yeah, next Tuesday"
"....... thanks"
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Its not
Then on to the next..
Then on to the next..
It's more like no more. I can't do this anymore. I did go for a coffee with the same guy 3 times and wanted him to take me in his arms and then he asks again to go for a coffee. If I wanted to test my face value I would be happy with that wouldn't I
You only know the past year, you don't know before that and you don't know me so be quiet
There were some helpful comments, mostly what fuzzy said.
bye.
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I get it.....
You were probably crippled with fear about AIDS. A lot of young gay men have known nothing except sex=death from the time you could walk and talk....
...and the defense mechanisms and coping strategies are so numerous..someone should write a manual. Your story sounds like another variation.....
It took YEARS for astute women to free their daughters from the Disney Princess Syndrome..and now gay men are embracing it instead (BARF)...
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