Update on My Feature in Men's Health Magazine - January Issue

[azulai]

Thanks for posting the article, Jay. You look great!
Excellent article, very inspiring. I would not be surprised if you get more requests for interviews.

[trywait]

that's freaking awesome [MENTION=21041]Jay[/MENTION]!

[LONDONER]

I'll add my congratulation to the others. Wonderful achievement.

[East]

So happy for you [MENTION=21041]Jay[/MENTION]!!!!!! You are an inspirational man....I am very proud of you....

I love the title to the article too...

[AlfredM]

Woot woot, congratz Jay ~! I almost forgot about it. So I suppose I'll find out your full name. [emoji14]

[Jay]

I kind of mind . . . :eyebrow-wiggle-smil

Woot woot, congratz Jay ~! I almost forgot about it. So I suppose I'll find out your full name. [emoji14]

lol I can't do much about that. Good luck finding my full name.

Frankly the reason why I blackened out my name in GS is because I had an issue with someone in GS back in 2011. I helped a supposed to be 'homeless guy' in GS. Sent the guy a big parcel with clothes and stuff. I also sent him some money so he can buy bus ticket so he can return to his hometown.

Long story short, I found out that he was a really bad guy with a record...if you catch my drift...

The incident freaks me out. Hence the blackened name.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

By the way, thanks everyone for the good wishes and kind words. I hope my story can bring some sort of awareness on obesity.

I didn't shy away to talk about bullying and depression because I want everyone to know that it is okay to talk about these subjects openly. Keeping these subjects to yourself can eat your alive and destruct you. You will feel better by opening your heart.

Again, thanks from the bottom of my heart to each one of you. For supporting and encouraging me through all the years.



I appreciate you guys very much. Love you guys.

Jay

[princealbertofb]

This is great, [MENTION=21041]Jay[/MENTION], sorry for not being around closer to the date this was finally issued. I am no less proud of you, though. Bravo!!

[Bhp91126]

This is great, [MENTION=21041]Jay[/MENTION], sorry for not being around closer to the date this was finally issued. I am no less proud of you, though. Bravo!!

Ditto, congrats from me as well

[princealbertofb]

lol I can't do much about that. Good luck finding my full name.

Frankly the reason why I blackened out my name in GS is because I had an issue with someone in GS back in 2011. I helped a supposed to be 'homeless guy' in GS. Sent the guy a big parcel with clothes and stuff. I also sent him some money so he can buy bus ticket so he can return to his hometown.

Long story short, I found out that he was a really bad guy with a record...if you catch my drift...

The incident freaks me out. Hence the blackened name.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

By the way, thanks everyone for the good wishes and kind words. I hope my story can bring some sort of awareness on obesity.

I didn't shy away to talk about bullying and depression because I want everyone to know that it is okay to talk about these subjects openly. Keeping these subjects to yourself can eat your alive and destruct you. You will feel better by opening your heart.

Again, thanks from the bottom of my heart to each one of you. For supporting and encouraging me through all the years.



I appreciate you guys very much. Love you guys.

Jay

We love you too, @Jay. Nice picture, by the way.

[Jay]

Thanks Bhp91126 and PA for the kind words.

Sorry for the late reply as I no longer that active in GS.

If I may, I would like to give a bit of update on myself.



I think a few people in GS are aware that I had issue with my face as in accepting it. After extreme weight loss, my face was heavily criticized by many parties from my own family, relatives and friends. A plastic surgeon and a head nurse from two different hospitals even suggested me to do a face makeover by inserting cheek implants and facelift. These people drove me nuts. They discouraged me and in the end, I avoided looking at myself in a mirror for many years because I dislike my face so much. But deep down, I believe that I have a nice looking face but my mindset has been planted with negative seeds from people around me. It took me long years to fight and overcome it.

Today I can tell you that I have overcome that mindset. I'm not fully recovered but I'm doing okay. I don't need anyone's acknowledgement and opinion on how my face should look like. I believe and I know that I have a good looking face. I love my face. That's good enough for me.

My left leg injury. Another reason why I used to hate seeing myself in a mirror or see myself walking down a street. The permanent injury is visible thus few people thought that I'm disabled although I'm not. A guy even asked me if I'm a Paralympic athlete. The injury used to make me ashamed of myself. I had a very low self esteem but I didn't give in. I fought back to overcome the lack of self esteem.

Nowadays, I challenge myself and the public by wearing shorts in public; showcasing my injured leg. It helps to train my self esteem. To hell with what people think.

With everything that I went through, I actually thought guys wouldn't be attracted to me. But I was wrong. I was approached by many. I was honestly surprised. I concluded that these people like my confidence. I don't sulk and surrender to my 'weaknesses'.

I think the lesson is confidence attracts people. You don't need to be perfect or look like a model in a magazine to be liked and accepted by anyone. Just be you. Be confident and be positive. Some of my colleagues consider me as a weirdo and the odd one because I'm wacky, love to goof around and a bit weird (living in my own world that my boss keeps joking around that I come from Mars while others are from Earth). But I don't mind because I love my personality.

But in the end, I'm still single. While I don't mind accepting a man into my life right now, my main focus is to elevate my physical as I still have few more surgeries to go. I really would like to finish my surgeries before 35.

Additionally, I would like to strengthen my career and financial background.



I turned 33 on last 16th April. Looking back, I'm very happy with what I have achieved. I overcome bullying in primary and high school, I went through extreme weight loss, I went through multiple loose skin surgeries, I overcome social anxiety, I overcome my leg injury and face issue and last but not least, I also bounced back from a depression, which happened in year 2014.

I still have so many things to do to prove to myself that nothing is impossible. Have faith in yourself and you can pretty much do anything.

Thanks again to everyone for supporting me all this time.

Best wishes.