The Monster In My Bed

[Borg69]

Plan ahead...

Hide a key outside. Hide bats/clubs... around the house. Plan a safe room you can lock yourself in.

If you have to for leverage, do let him know WE ALL know in great detail what he's done and will come looking for you if you're missing.

[Camfer]

Okay Beaux, now I do recall you mentioning something about the Salvation Army. It reflects poorly on our society that you do not have help available to you just because you're broke gay guy with no kids.

[CellarDweller]

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/...ed-men.htm

•U.S. and Canada: 1-800-799-7233 The National Domestic Violence Hotline The Hotline is staffed 24 hours a day, year round with live advocates who can answer questions, discuss safety options, and connect callers to resources in their local area. Every call to NDVH is anonymous."

"The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men is the only one in the nation that offers support and help in finding resources specifically for men," says Brown, of the not-for-profit helpline. "We'll provide options and support and help a man understand that the abuse is not his fault and it is not acceptable." The Domestic Abuse Helpline can be reached from anywhere in the US and Canada, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, by calling 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754).

[Beaux]

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/...ed-men.htm

•U.S. and Canada: 1-800-799-7233 The National Domestic Violence Hotline The Hotline is staffed 24 hours a day, year round with live advocates who can answer questions, discuss safety options, and connect callers to resources in their local area. Every call to NDVH is anonymous."

"The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men is the only one in the nation that offers support and help in finding resources specifically for men," says Brown, of the not-for-profit helpline. "We'll provide options and support and help a man understand that the abuse is not his fault and it is not acceptable." The Domestic Abuse Helpline can be reached from anywhere in the US and Canada, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, by calling 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754).

Yes I have the number on speed dial. They do offer support. Emotional support. You can call and talk to them 24 hours a day.

~ Beaux

[Beaux]

Oh and by the way, he leaves tomorrow for a four-day trip out of town for work. So at least I'll get a break.
~Beaux

[himself]

Being 22 and having done absolutely nothing in my entire life, I still feel entitled to my opinion on everything. So, here it goes. He seems scary. The thing that concerned me most wasn't the suspicious death of his ex-partner. It's the fact that he wanted to get you to confess to being abusive towards him. He may actually believe that you are the abuser. Apparently, it's called 'gaslighting' - bullies / abusers try to convince themselves and their victims that their victims are bad. I would say get out before he strings you up but I suppose it is more difficult than that.

[Beaux]

Being 22 and having done absolutely nothing in my entire life, I still feel entitled to my opinion on everything. So, here it goes. He seems scary. The thing that concerned me most wasn't the suspicious death of his ex-partner. It's the fact that he wanted to get you to confess to being abusive towards him. He may actually believe that you are the abuser. Apparently, it's called 'gaslighting' - bullies / abusers try to convince themselves and their victims that their victims are bad. I would say get out before he strings you up but I suppose it is more difficult than that.

I would have never believed myself capable of putting up with the behavior I have endured since marrying this man. I used to tell people in abusive relationships "just leave! It's not worth it!", all the while thinking to myself how stupid they were for staying.

The fact of the matter, is that from inside the relationship it is never that straight forward. After a tantrum, he is SO nice..SO compassionate...SO caring.....Until the cycle starts again....

My income tax return should be in soon, and after I get it, I will have real options for leaving. Until then I am just going to be very very quiet and very very careful...

~Beaux

[MikeW]

...Until then I am just going to be very very quiet and very very careful...

Just have to say I don' like this situation one bit. I think your husband is severely mentally ill. Wish I had the financial resources to help you file for divorce now so you could get yourself out of there.

[matty7]

you say he is So nice, So companionate etc. That's an abusers trademark I do believe !! I would take this up coming 4 days he's away to get a place in one of the shelters if poss like the other guys suggest mate - at least take a look at it anyway. Im not saying he did do anything to Robbie but staying there for financial reasons for the time being does you no good at all if you end up the same way as him - I would rather be poor and alive than any alternative - plus you can arrange for return to be sent to another address so you can sort your future out from that point on

[LJay]

TurboTax helped me get my taxes in quickly and get a quick return last year.