Have you ever been seduced?

[AlohaShannon]

Why is everyone so down on the art of seduction? I guess we have a different interpretation of what seduction means.

I'm not saying i'm hard to get, hell i'm pretty easy, but I apprciate someone taking the time to tease me before they please me.

To meit's not about playing a game, but rather having fun with a potential partner. Hell sometimes I still seduce the man I am already with. I guess that would be called fore play, but aint nothing wrong with foreplay.

There is definitely a different view of seduction between millennials and us Gen-Xers and the generations before. Seduction has nothing to do with trying to convince someone to sleep with them, that's called desperation. And there is so much more to expressing interest in a potential mate than just saying, "hey, you wanna fuck?" "Yeah, I wanna fuck." "Then let's go fuck." Seduction is about flirtation, expressing your interest in maybe a more subtle way than "let's fuck", suggestive body language or talking, light touching, things like that.

Yeah, I think the concept of seduction is lost on millennials in general.

[meridannight]

I take seduction as trying to sweet talk someone into bed or something more when they weren't really interested or didn't like you as much as you like them.

nope. that's not how it's done.

i would never try to 'convince' or 'talk' a guy into bed with me if it was clear he wasn't interested in me. i don't even think that is possible. i.e. i don't think it is possible to seduce anybody against their will. seduction is/has to be a two-sided affair. one of the men is doing it and the other is the one who wants to be seduced, so to say.

seduction is a way of courting where one party is clearly and strongly taking the lead, so the other is the guy who is being 'courted' or 'seduced'. pleasurably pursue another male, is one way to think of it. in essence, it's just paying a lot of attention to him, making him feel good and wanted, with more or less obvious underlying tone of wanting it to end in sex/romance.

usually there is a lot of personal chemistry involved. and it may not be immediately obvious to one or both that they are engaging in such a dynamic with each other.

[meridannight]

Yeah, I think the concept of seduction is lost on millennials in general.

it's little wonder, since they're living in the virtual nonexistent world so much. as a consequence most of the real human interaction and interpersonal dynamics are lost on them.

[LJay]

From Merriam-Webster:

Synonym Discussion of seduce. lure, entice, inveigle, decoy, tempt, seduce mean to lead astray from one's true course. ... seduce implies a leading astray by persuasion or false promises <seduced by assurances of assistance>.

With this definition in mind, I would have to reply "rarely." There was one instance when a guy had he hots and I was recovering from abdominal surgery. He talked a great line but I was cautious and declined his enticements.

[Meebs]

Many times. I'm a slut

[starlight]

There is definitely a different view of seduction between millennials and us Gen-Xers and the generations before. Seduction has nothing to do with trying to convince someone to sleep with them, that's called desperation. And there is so much more to expressing interest in a potential mate than just saying, "hey, you wanna fuck?" "Yeah, I wanna fuck." "Then let's go fuck." Seduction is about flirtation, expressing your interest in maybe a more subtle way than "let's fuck", suggestive body language or talking, light touching, things like that.

Yeah, I think the concept of seduction is lost on millennials in general.

Maybe its because everyone is through a screen and not face to face and of the few people who like me say they prefer to be face to face with someone are actually scared to due to their anxiety.

[Pcolakuntryboy]

Yes, I was seduced in my first sexual experience. I wanted it, but I was way too shy and nervous at the time to initiate anything.

[Insertnamehere]

From Merriam-Webster:

Synonym Discussion of seduce. lure, entice, inveigle, decoy, tempt, seduce mean to lead astray from one's true course. ... seduce implies a leading astray by persuasion or false promises <seduced by assurances of assistance>.

With this definition in mind, I would have to reply "rarely." There was one instance when a guy had he hots and I was recovering from abdominal surgery. He talked a great line but I was cautious and declined his enticements.

This is exactly what comes to my mind when I hear seduction

nope. that's not how it's done.

i would never try to 'convince' or 'talk' a guy into bed with me if it was clear he wasn't interested in me. i don't even think that is possible. i.e. i don't think it is possible to seduce anybody against their will. seduction is/has to be a two-sided affair. one of the men is doing it and the other is the one who wants to be seduced, so to say.

seduction is a way of courting where one party is clearly and strongly taking the lead, so the other is the guy who is being 'courted' or 'seduced'. pleasurably pursue another male, is one way to think of it. in essence, it's just paying a lot of attention to him, making him feel good and wanted, with more or less obvious underlying tone of wanting it to end in sex/romance.

usually there is a lot of personal chemistry involved. and it may not be immediately obvious to one or both that they are engaging in such a dynamic with each other.

What is I think is happening here is that we have different views on the word (see above quote), but what you described as your definition of it, in this post, is what most of us would agree as something nice to do/receive.

Although there is still something a bit off about it to me, cause I'd rather that kind of thing happened naturally and not something akin to a game between the 2 people. Of course, we are all different people and some like these kind of "game" approach within the couple.

[meridannight]

Although there is still something a bit off about it to me, cause I'd rather that kind of thing happened naturally and not something akin to a game between the 2 people. Of course, we are all different people and some like these kind of "game" approach within the couple.

it does come naturally. at least when i've done it. i've never deliberately went out to seduce a guy. it's something that happens with the right type of guy (i can't do it with every guy. i have to really like him. he has to produce a certain emotional reaction in me for me to pull it off). and then it's a dynamic you both slip into. i don't plot and plan in advance to bring it about, and i don't think that's possible either.

i would never play any games. i detest playing games. i don't think it can be described like that.

[MENTION=20680]AlohaShannon[/MENTION] expressed a very adequate point-of-view here: it is often nicer to have some subtlety in place of bluntness. often it is better to let a guy know how much you want him through your actions, and not through explicit words, and watch it dawn on him, and see him react to it. not just occasionally such non-verbal or between-the-lines communication beats the 'i want to fuck you' honesty. sometimes, you go for the bottle of Champagne and a gourmet meal, instead of immediately asking for a date/sex/etc.

the gay scene is full of explicit hookup options anyway, that's not disappearing anywhere. it's there, everybody knows how to do that. this is something else. it's a more involved dynamic, a more personal approach. i think it's also refreshing.

and, i think you should have some style when pursuing another man. this is part of it (though not always), and it's something that lets you explore that dimension. i love it when it happens. we all know how to just go into a bar and come home with another guy. we all know how to use the internet. this is something i don't know in advance how to do, until i meet the specific guy and do it. i discover how to do it in the process of it all. because every guy is different and the way you react to each other is different. and it's all very amazing to experience (although, i've only ever been doing the so-called seducing part, so i can't speak for how it is to experience it the other way around).

[VirgoMasquerade]

Lol i do this shit all the time.... A girl tried to seduce me with a lap dance in the middle school, It didnt work