Meeting a married man

[Camfer]

Tell him you want to meet his wife and talk with her about it before you do the deed with him. His answer to that will tell you everything you need to know.

[Darius]

You're playing with fire just by meeting him tomorrow. YOu are already attracted to him even knowing he does what your father did to your mother and you. You are thinking with your dick, you just need to be honest and admit it. If the attraction is still there when you meet, or even stronger, you are doomed.
Enter at your own peril, but you don't want to be your father, do you?

[Anocxu]

U see how conflicted I am here. I have this awesome guy on one hand .

An awesome guy wouldn't do that to his family....
or you.

If he's bi or in an open relationship.. (and married) he at least should have told you on line immediately.

Cut ties with this player...
I think you are so much better than.."The Catch Of The Day".

Alright..
Let me ask you a rational question.

How well do you expect this to go?

[verysimple]

Well, I'm going to go against the grain here [MENTION=21000]verysimple[/MENTION]. Married men having sex with other men is NOT UNCOMMON ... and I'd be willing to say it is especially common where you live.

For sure there are all kinds of good reasons NOT to do it. But.... IF... bold capital letter IF... you can enjoy the pleasure of being sexual with this man and NOT get emotionally entangled, then why not?

Karma? Get real.

Whether you do or don't have sex with this man has absolutely no cause-effect bearing on whether or not someone will "cheat" on you. ZERO. Adults make conscious decisions and then they accept the consequences of those decisions and don't piss, moan and whine about their life getting all fucked up because of some "mistake" they made in the past. They just accept the consequences of what happens as a result of their decision and make the best of it.

GO ahead. Fuck this guys brains out. Have a blast. More than one!

But don't get attached. He's made his commitment already and he's made it clear. OR... if you DO... If some kind of "relationship" evolves out of it... don't come back here pissing and moaning about your life when it all goes sour. Because you know damn well right here, right now, it would.

What u said reminds of this following quote that I read from a book.

"Grown-up's work for things. Grown ups pay. Grown ups suffer the consequences."

I didn't exactly get it when u said:

"Whether you do or don't have sex with this man has absolutely no cause-effect bearing on whether or not someone will "cheat" on you. ZERO. "

And then u were like go ahead fuck him but don't complain abt it when it goes bad and u k it would. It's like ur telling me to do it despite the fact that it is bad for me. That kinda confused me there

[CorsacReborn]

I wouldn't even contemplate meeting up with the guy, yes he may be honest with what he's said but nothing good can come of this. axle2152 is right when he says that most guys on Grindr are dishonest despite that being where me and my partner met but good honest people are incredibly rare to find on there.

I had one guy when I was single message me with some pretty strong stuff that he wanted to get up to, I wasn't interested and said no. 5-6 months after this I landed a job in the same place as him with our departments sat right next to each other and found out he had a boyfriend of 5+ years in an apparently happy relationship which wasn't open. He recognised me and asked me to keep quiet about it, I told him I wasn't interested in the drama.

[verysimple]

That's the thing I'd be most concerned about....getting emotionally attached, even denying the fact that it would or could happen with this guy. Chances are that this guy is probably going to cheat on his wife with or without you. Just have to consider all the different variables like are you going to feel guilty for sleeping with a married man... However, I would consider the guy the homewrecker since he's on grindr looking for guys to sleep with. Clearly as others have stated, be prepared to deal with any consequences and whatever happens don't get attached because a relationship is clearly a bad idea with this guy seeing how unfaithful he already is.

No I would never get attached. Even if anything got attached evolved into feelings I'd cut all ties cuz I k damn well it wouldn't go too well.

[verysimple]

An awesome guy wouldn't do that to his family....
or you.

If he's bi or in an open relationship.. (and married) he at least should have told you on line immediately.

Cut ties with this player...
I think you are so much better than.."The Catch Of The Day".

Alright..
Let me ask you a rational question.

How well do you expect this to go?

I honestly don't know I mean it's just like what [MENTION=21957]Darius[/MENTION] said... I am only thinking with my dick here.

[verysimple]

You're playing with fire just by meeting him tomorrow. YOu are already attracted to him even knowing he does what your father did to your mother and you. You are thinking with your dick, you just need to be honest and admit it. If the attraction is still there when you meet, or even stronger, you are doomed.
Enter at your own peril, but you don't want to be your father, do you?

No way. That's the last thing I want.

[bryyzy]

No way. That's the last thing I want.

Then don't go through with it. Sever all ties to him. Plenty of single guys out there.

[InbetweenDreams]

It is tempting, I've been in similar situations...not with married men but where I could have wound up in a bad situation, or something I would have regretted.