Jealous Boyfriend

[ClosetCase]

I am really scared that when I get to the point in my life where I have a boyfriend... That I will be the jealous boyfriend type. How do you handle that and get past it?

[knickerbuck]

don't be jealous .. just keep calm and go with the flow .. it's hard when there's a lot of turbulence ..

[InbetweenDreams]

I am really scared that when I get to the point in my life where I have a boyfriend... That I will be the jealous boyfriend type. How do you handle that and get past it?

Do you see yourself being jealous? What makes you think you would be a jealous bf?

[CorsacReborn]

Do you generally get jealous of others whether it be friends who have friends outside your circle or family members who spent time with others instead of you? You need to know what will make you tick to get jealous and work on stopping that from happening.

One thing you have to remember with all relationships is that you're going to need your space occasionally from your partner so that you can indulge in your own life. Jealousy is usually to do with your own actions, bad experiences in the past or just a lack of trust for others.

I don't think I've ever been jealous of anything my boyfriend has done without me or if he has spent time with other people, judging by what I know from my partner he doesn't get jealous either if I'm with other people. We trust each other and have so much contact that its rare that we don't know what the other person is doing.

[ClosetCase]

Do you see yourself being jealous? What makes you think you would be a jealous bf?

I've never been one to be jealous, but sometimes when I am thinking about dating I get this gut feeling that I could be that boyfriend. I don't want to be and as I mentioned am not jealous, but they always say trust your gut... That worries me.

[ClosetCase]

Do you generally get jealous of others whether it be friends who have friends outside your circle or family members who spent time with others instead of you? You need to know what will make you tick to get jealous and work on stopping that from happening.

One thing you have to remember with all relationships is that you're going to need your space occasionally from your partner so that you can indulge in your own life. Jealousy is usually to do with your own actions, bad experiences in the past or just a lack of trust for others.

I don't think I've ever been jealous of anything my boyfriend has done without me or if he has spent time with other people, judging by what I know from my partner he doesn't get jealous either if I'm with other people. We trust each other and have so much contact that its rare that we don't know what the other person is doing.

Guess I really better trust him then so I can avoid the jealously. I'm pretty trusting so hopefully that won't bite me in butt.

[InbetweenDreams]

I've never been one to be jealous, but sometimes when I am thinking about dating I get this gut feeling that I could be that boyfriend. I don't want to be and as I mentioned am not jealous, but they always say trust your gut... That worries me.

So would you be worried a lot about whether or not you boyfriend were cheating on you? I mean it is ok to suspect that if you have GOOD reason to believe something is going on. I can understand giving another guy the stink eye for flirting with your boyfriend. But becoming jealous because your bf has other gay male friends may or may not be a good reason. Just depends on what is going on. So being the jealous bf may not be a bad thing, just when your jealousy is misplaced or become paranoid.

To better get an idea if you might fall into the latter do you worry about things a lot in general? Have anxiety? If not you're probably not going to have much of an issue.

The bottom line though if you do not completely trust the person you're with expect troubles in your relationship. You should be able to fully trust your partner, although that is my opinion.

[Borg69]

Trust is earned... in baby steps. As you spend more and more time with the guy you're dating and assess certain situations and weigh the pro's and con's, you can get a feel for weather or not you can trust him. Also, you should listen to your gut... but just make sure it IS your gut you're listening to, and not fear, insecurities or jealousy. Find out facts before making assumptions and accusations.

[InbetweenDreams]

Trust is earned... in baby steps. As you spend more and more time with the guy you're dating and assess certain situations and weigh the pro's and con's, you can get a feel for weather or not you can trust him. Also, you should listen to your gut... but just make sure it IS your gut you're listening to, and not fear, insecurities or jealousy. Find out facts before making assumptions and accusations.

Yeah I kind of jumped to the end on that whole trust thing. Probably the most difficult thing is to remain level headed and stay completely rational. I think it pretty good to assume we either judging too harshly or being way too lenient

[Borg69]

Yeah I kind of jumped to the end on that whole trust thing. Probably the most difficult thing is to remain level headed and stay completely rational. I think it pretty good to assume we either judging too harshly or being way too lenient

It also doesn't help that sometimes we find ourselves thinking with the little head... a little bit too "hungry", horny, and/or lonely, giving someone chances they wouldn't ordinarily get when life's "beer goggles" are on. I think we've all been there at one time or another.