Boyfriend advice

[Isefet]

Hi people!
I just need advice. I dated a man that I loved and still love but we broke up because of an addiction he didn't want to abandon.
As a result, I dated a man who told me on our third date that he's an escort.
We still dated but broke up when he went to college and when he made me realise that I still loved my first boyfriend.
I tried to patch things up with my first boyfriend (who gave up his addiction) but learned that he had sex with my ex escort boyfriend...
He told me that it just was sex (even though he didn't pay so we can't really call it a job escort) and both of them knew that we were linked and didn't like each other when I was dating the escort boyfriend.

Should I get back with my first boyfriend, even though he had sex with my ex boyfriend while we were talking about getting back together?

Thanks guys, kisses

[IanSaysHi]

To be completely honest.... You deserve better. Start afresh. Usually I'd write an analytical essay pulling out different bits of your post but this just screams out an easy answer. Go find someone who takes your feelings into account. Good luck.

[Isefet]

The fact is that I really love him... And he says that we weren't together when he had sex...
I forgot, maybe it's important, that I didn't think he was really good in bed while my escort boyfriend, obviously, was quite good...
So he says that by having sex with this professional, it could also help us...
By the way, thanks for your quick reply

[kindy64]

To me, if you really feel it's love, you should try and work things out.

Does it really matter who he hooked up with while the two of you weren't together?

[Isefet]

I might be a little of a pain in the arse but, I'm asking myself, is it really okay that he sleeps with my ex boyfriend whom he despises since I accepted the fact that he was an escort and not the fact that my first boyfriend had an addiction, while he was telling me at the same moment that he loves me and wants to get back together with me?

Thanks again fort helping me

[IanSaysHi]

I forgot, maybe it's important, that I didn't think he was really good in bed while my escort boyfriend, obviously, was quite good...
So he says that by having sex with this professional, it could also help us...

...is it really okay that he sleeps with my ex boyfriend whom he despises since I accepted the fact that he was an escort and not the fact that my first boyfriend had an addiction, while he was telling me at the same moment that he loves me and wants to get back together with me?

Wow, who said romance was dead? Yes I believe that if you love someone you should try to work things out - but it works two ways? He slept with your ex whom he despises and now thinks it can spice up things in the bedroom? To be honest I'm really confused. But hey, I'm single so maybe follow the other guys advice *shrug*

[Isefet]

As an ex straight guy, he doesn't have much experience with men and being really really pride, I did not tell him that he wasn't really good in bed while we were dating, he learned it from my best friend while she was a bit drunk (my mistake...).
So I can understand that he would like to "train" but why with my ex? Hahaha
If he really wanted to train with an escort, aren't there any others in England? ^^

IanSaysHi, I appreciate any kind of advice, wether you're single or not, thank you

[Darius]

Is there any reason you can't teach your bf how to be a better lover? Not everyone is a natural.

In what ways did you fail in the relationship? It's unlikely to be one-sided, is it?

[Isefet]

He is really prideful ^^ At the beginning of our relationship, when I asked him if he would return a blowjob, he wouldn't let me guide him and preferred to look on Internet at a tutorial (all in secret).

Of course, I have my wrongs, while we were dating, we could say I was the reason that we broke up.
When I forced him to give up his addiction, I refused to kiss him, make love to him and would force him to empty his pockets before coming in our apartment.
Even though he tells me now that it was for his own good and that the only reason he wouldn't admit that he had a problem was because he feared that he would disappoint me...
(I still fell guilty about it)

[Borg69]

That's just way too much drama for anyone. Dump them both and hang out with people you wouldn't be embarrassed to introduce to your mom.