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artyboy · 11-18-2016, 07:29 PM

I haven't had any messages for 4 weeks on the dating site I'm on. I think I know why. I've said about my disability. If I remove from my profile I'm disabled I get loads of messages. Not sure what to do?

11-18-2016, 07:47 PM

artyboy Wrote:I haven't had any messages for 4 weeks on the dating site I'm on. I think I know why. I've said about my disability. If I remove from my profile I'm disabled I get loads of messages. Not sure what to do?

Wouldn't they find out anyway if you got to know them well enough. I think it is best to tell people your not so great qualities first so they do not get surprised later and break your heart. In case that was a deal breaker for them. That is my opinion.

Gemini · 11-18-2016, 07:48 PM

Your disability is a simple fact of life. Guys who want to date you need to deal with it. I'm not sure what you'd accomplish by removing it from your profile. Because when you meet up with someone, he'll know.

It isn't something to hide or be ashamed of. Granted, some guys are so freaking shallow that it would make a difference to them, but those aren't the kind of guys who'd turn out to be Mr. Right.

On the other hand, do you think that if a guy got to know you online first, he'd deal with the issue of disability better when he found out?

Lol and here I am, no help at all......

artyboy · 11-18-2016, 07:52 PM

No one is giving me a chance to even talk to them though.

11-18-2016, 07:53 PM

artyboy Wrote:I haven't had any messages for 4 weeks on the dating site I'm on. I think I know why. I've said about my disability. If I remove from my profile I'm disabled I get loads of messages. Not sure what to do?

Well, that ain't true love right. Do you want to date the wrong guy or right guy. My mother always say, path to failure is wide open, but for success path is narrow and long. So think your-self.. But there will be someone to accept that. Don't think little of you because of that. In my country we don't call disabled people, instead we call differently gifted people.

11-18-2016, 08:17 PM

artyboy Wrote:No one is giving me a chance to even talk to them though.

Which site you on? Let me create a profile and chat with you.

artyboy · 11-18-2016, 08:37 PM

Plenty of fish

11-18-2016, 09:57 PM

I have an account at a porn site so I can have favorites to watch. A couple people have asked if i want to hook up. You can make friends there and talk to people in private messages and watch porn. That might be an option. I do not know. Good luck. Smile

InbetweenDreams · 11-18-2016, 11:12 PM

artyboy Wrote:Plenty of fish

I'm on POF as well...

I usually meet nicer guys on there but it is few and far between, there are less people on there..

My advice would be to remove it from your profile, not to hide it though. I mean if someone likes you well enough to carry on a conversation then maybe tell them. Once someone likes you and takes interest, those sort of things don't cloud up the waters. It is a shame but putting out things like that, like in my case my weight... If I put on POF or whatever that I weighed 220 lbs or whatever people are going to assume I'm a fat fuck...that's the truth, even if they themselves aren't a model that's just how humans operate... Now if I talk to someone and they like me and meet me they can see me and while I could stand to lose weight I don't look like 220... I know that's kind of apples and oranges here, but if I saw a guy on POF who I thought was handsome but had a disability I would still message them. I even tried talking to a guy I thought was cute who was autistic, except it just didn't work -- no chemistry there. Mind you this was a case where he was a high functioning person with autism.

Anyway, I wonder a lot about why people in general do suck... not that I'm some kind of shinning example of what humanity ought to be or anything... I've certainly been a asshole to people and in a lot of cases rightly so, even if I'm still in the wrong.

That being said... Do what you think is best and you certainly shouldn't let the lack of, assholes, get you down because they don't understand your disability or if it is some kind of deal breaker...

11-19-2016, 05:26 AM

I don't know what your disability is and I don't really care, it doesn't define who you are, it defines how are others are based on the way that they see you.

'Dating' websites are really a a contradiction of the term dating, and I feel your interpretation of dating is the same as most people who DON'T used 'dating' websites.

Those on dating websites, their idea of a date is how fast you can down your coffee and cop a blow job.

Is there anything preventing you from from the bar/club/pub scene or even just a social club?