Gay dating apps?

[Aquarius]

3rd, and you all can tell by now that I am angry about that lack of respect here in this thread by some.

Respect that people are different and no fucking boxes that you can sort people into like you wish.

I have my reasons why I can only imagine a relationship with someone younger, and why I am only looking for someone younger. It's private. Not your business if you behave like that. Friends know it. They get it.

Just as everyone here asks to be respected for being gay, I ask from you to respect people's age ranges as long as they are legal. If a 55 year old wants to date someone over 70, WHO CARES?

Rant over.

[LJay]

[Looks for the sherry and prepares to hide behind fan.]

[drobs]

Sorry man I shouldn't post when drinking.
If a mod wants to delete that post go for it.

[InbetweenDreams]

Hey, I struggle to find a dating app that fits my needs.

What I'm looking for is something that not only shows me guys within my age range, but also filters away those guys who think I'm too old for them.

It's so depressive to go through dozens of profiles of guys I like and see that I'm beyond their age range... any dating app that actually takes that into consideration?

Also, I don't like those swipe left / right apps.

My advice. Stop filtering guys on age. I get it most probably wouldn't want to date someone 20 years older, but some people do -- just to make the point that age doesn't have to be the limiting factor.

The other part of my advice and this one kind of took me a while to really sink in good. Start with being a friend. You'll learn much more about that person and assuming you're looking for long term you'll have a better chance at figuring out if things would work out. I mean just going on dates it fine but often people are far more focused on sex than all the other stuff that comes with a relationship. Then again not entirely sure what you're really looking for...

[Aquarius]

Ok, I see the stormy sea has calmed a bit

Axle, exactly that is my "plan". I want to get to know guys, first on a friend level, and if anything more develops, that's exactly what I want. Be that a friend with benefits or love, whatever.

My minimum requirement for a man is that I have to feel well with him, and I don't think "just the first date" is enough for that.

In real life, I don't have an age range. I do prefer guys around 25-35, but if I find someone who I absolutely adore, I won't send him away just cos he's older than me. However, considering how far I am in life compared to my peers, it would be better to be with a 25 or 30 year old.

I look up to the average 30 year old, I feel like a child compared to the average 30 year old. This is what I feel, even if you can't understand it. My biological development is delayed by 5 to 10 years. It's based on my hormonal condition. In addition to that, my life experience compares to the average 25 to 30 year old.
I don't think I should have to justify my age range, but take this as an explanation because I do get that it's hard to understand for "people who aren't me".

Dating apps have age ranges, so why not using them. I was just wondering if there is any app that actually respects the age range of the others in my filter, hence the thread.

I'm not even sure whether I'll use dating apps. If there isn't any that has the feature that I was looking for, I don't think I will, I would pretty much prefer to meet someone in the real life.

And finally, I want to stress it once again, the reason why I am asking for a "reciprocal age range filter" is exactly because I respect the younger guys' age range and don't want to deal with his profile when he states an age range that excludes me.
It's also in the interest of the younger guy to not appear on the other's list if the other guy is out of the younger guy's age range.

Not sure if you get what I mean, but maybe someone does.

[InbetweenDreams]

The thing about dating apps is that they're seldom used for dating... That's the biggest problem, before you get to trying to filter results which I really think you should not worry about filtering at all or make assumptions what someone who is 30 years old is expecting or wanting.

When I was 25 I had a very different view on age than I do now. I wouldn't even speak to someone who was 30... Kind of foolish if you ask me... 5 years isn't that big of a difference... I just need to like them and find them attractive, doesn't mean I expect a 10 or anything.

[Aquarius]

Well, when I was 23, my age limit was 29.
But, one of my best friends back then, who was 22, fell in love with a 39 year old guy. The latter one was neither rich nor good looking.

It exists, and an app with a reciprocal age range filter would help both parties, the older guy who looks for younger, and the younger guy who looks for older.

But no matter what, I get it, dating apps are probably altogether not the right tool for me.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

Age is just a number, and I say each to their own. I've known teenagers who are only interested in guys that are 50+ and vice versa, so I think its a little unfair to vilify the OP based on the profile of what he's looking for in a partner. Age is just one element, so is race, hair colour, body type and a 1001 other things.

We all have "types".....

I think the biggest challenge is that we call all of these digital applications, "dating apps" when 99% of the guys on them are only looking for NSA sexual hookups. Maybe calling them "dating apps" makes us feel better about using them?

Anyway my point to the OP is this: If you spend so much time worrying about your digital self image and profile, and connecting digitally with individuals, then your still going to be a virgin at 50, and as for your age criteria, almost (almost) all gay men lie about their age, so Id take any declared age with a pinch of salt.

While I don't agree with everything that Drobs said, or the tone of his comments (drunk or not) he has kind of hit the nail on the head. Your getting so wrapped up in creating this perfect digital representation of what your looking for that the chances are they don't exist. But you'll keep looking anyway.

Step away from the digital world, and try going analogue - visit a gay bar, or a sauna etc. and go with an open mind. You may be surprised at what you find and who you meet....

ObW
xXx

[trywait]

imo anything beyond a hookup, it's more needle in a haystack scenario on those dating apps.

[InbetweenDreams]

imo anything beyond a hookup, it's more needle in a haystack scenario on those dating apps.

That is definitely true and seems to be the case world-wide.

Probably be key is to be patient and relaxed enough for the spontaneous to happen as [MENTION=21405]meridannight[/MENTION] mentioned to me in another thread...