04-22-2017, 02:45 AM
Hello Everyone,
I haven't posted anything in awhile. It's good to be back on here!
It's been quite the journey the last 5 years for me, basically learning to love my self, becoming more confident and definitely become more social. I have to honestly say that I am so proud of myself the past year and a half.
It's now come to the point that I'm really getting tired of missing out on life because of fear or negative thoughts. With this in mind, I've recently become very very interested in dating (maybe even hooking up) and meeting guys. Actually, I've been for a long time but I've found every excuse not to pursue it mainly do to thoughts and self-esteem. I have a few apps downloaded on my phone and have matched with guys and talked with some but it hasn't amounted to anything major.
There's a guy that works at a coffee shop in the mall that I visit and I am interested. He is gay, I can tell, but he also has a profile on Grindr (yes, I know not the best dating avenue). Anyway I've recently visited the coffee shop and we both spent a little time glancing at each other the few times I was there. Yesterday while shopping, I saw he was there at the register. I mustered up the courage to go buy something from him and strike up a simple conversation. We talked and engaged in some bantour for about thirty seconds to a minute and then I left. It felt pretty good. I am very attracted to him and I'm open to date or hang out. Hooking up is not my preference at this time but I wouldn't mind getting physical with him.
So, does anyone have any advice on the best way to ask him out while he's at work? I could just as well send him a message on Grindr but I'm not sure I like the idea. I kind of want to do it in person because I want to lean more toward dating, but I'm not sure how to do it without getting him in trouble or putting him in a weird situation.
Any advice and encouragement would be so appreciated
I haven't posted anything in awhile. It's good to be back on here!
It's been quite the journey the last 5 years for me, basically learning to love my self, becoming more confident and definitely become more social. I have to honestly say that I am so proud of myself the past year and a half.
It's now come to the point that I'm really getting tired of missing out on life because of fear or negative thoughts. With this in mind, I've recently become very very interested in dating (maybe even hooking up) and meeting guys. Actually, I've been for a long time but I've found every excuse not to pursue it mainly do to thoughts and self-esteem. I have a few apps downloaded on my phone and have matched with guys and talked with some but it hasn't amounted to anything major.
There's a guy that works at a coffee shop in the mall that I visit and I am interested. He is gay, I can tell, but he also has a profile on Grindr (yes, I know not the best dating avenue). Anyway I've recently visited the coffee shop and we both spent a little time glancing at each other the few times I was there. Yesterday while shopping, I saw he was there at the register. I mustered up the courage to go buy something from him and strike up a simple conversation. We talked and engaged in some bantour for about thirty seconds to a minute and then I left. It felt pretty good. I am very attracted to him and I'm open to date or hang out. Hooking up is not my preference at this time but I wouldn't mind getting physical with him.
So, does anyone have any advice on the best way to ask him out while he's at work? I could just as well send him a message on Grindr but I'm not sure I like the idea. I kind of want to do it in person because I want to lean more toward dating, but I'm not sure how to do it without getting him in trouble or putting him in a weird situation.
Any advice and encouragement would be so appreciated