A weird straight guy in a party

[Anonymous]

Just wanted to tell you something that happened to me. Yesterday was my friend's birthday and she was throwing a little party and she had invited almost all her friends, including me.

There were some people among them I had never seen before and this guy was one of them, he had come together with his girlfriend. My friend formally introduced us and we talked a little bit but like I said, I had never seen him before, he was a stranger to me, therefore we didn't have much to talk about. And so I eventually wandered over to the people I knew.

Then, as the evening went on, I realized that he is literary staring at me. You can feel when someone is watching you and that's how I felt. At first I didn't pay much attention to it, then it became really weird. After I noticed it, I looked back at him unnoticebly every now and then and he never took his eyes off me. I don't know how his girlfriend didn't see it. Even when everybody started to dance ( I don't like to dance, so I was just sitting with my drink) I noticed that he was dancing with his girlfriend and still he was looking at me over her shoulder.

At this point I was really creeped out already, not because he's ugly, he was young and handsome but because I couldn't understand the reason behind this. I even went to the restroom to look into the mirror because I thought that maybe there's something wrong with my appearance but everything was fine.

So I gathered all of my courage and I went over to him when his girlfriend wasn't next to him and I asked what was wrong. He pretended he never did anything and that he was looking at everyone. That's a lie, I'm not blind and I saw him staring right at me. Then he said "my friend's name" said you're gay". I said "yes, so what?" And he was like "there you go" and just walked off.

I couldn't understand anything but I didn't feel comfortable in that party anymore so I said goodbye to my friend and I drove home. I don't mean to say he might like me or something, it's just that I still can't understand why would he be doing that, especially with his girl next to him.

[sillyboy86]

I don't know what to say or help you, maybe he will re-appear in your life in the future. Maybe he's bi-curious or doesn't accept this part of himself.

It happened something similar to me some time ago, there was this guy at a party with common friends, I met him for the first time and even if he is very masculine and supposed-straight, I wasn't sure of his sexuality after a pair or small talks, then during the whole party (who lasted from lunch till late night) I had the impression he was a lot interested in me, and I shared the thing cause he was nice and very chatty (almost only with me) always looking for me etc. And he was also very phisical-friendly, like hugging me etc (and it was the very first time I met him).
And I also know that he asked of me later in some occasions... But he's straight, of course (...)

[LJay]

OP, you were a curiosity to him. For one reason or the other he was having trouble facing the fact that you are gay. It is his hangup, not yours. Forget it.

[drobs]

I had something similar happen to me at a straight biker bar. This dude was staring at me hardcore - took me awhile to figure it out...

There was TV right behind with a baseball game going on. He wasn't staring at me he was staring at the baseball game.

[Jae]

The guy was a total idiot! I agree with you, "there you go." ((?)) Its like he was making a statement to the cosmos without the cosmos knowing about it. When I look at a guy, ones I do not know usually, I am checking out the whole package, wondering what they look like under the wrapping.

[Darius]

Next time, just start touching your crotch, rearrange you dick in your pants or something and see what happens.