Is it realistic to desire younger looking partners (18 - 20)?

[sethmachine]

I'm 25 years old now. I've been very fortunate to be in a steady monogamous relationship that will is soon approaching a 2 year anniversary with my lovely partner. He is 19 years old and only been out of high school for a year. I would describe him as very mature, kind, and patient. I think part of his maturity is because he had gone through a lot of trauma and suffering growing up. These experiences I think make people more mature (if they survive of course).

His age was not an important factor in why I was attracted to him. It was the look of sadness and suffering in his profile photos in that I saw a human being who had been through a lot and was capable of real empathy (note this just made him seem very approachable and down to earth, which is turned out to totally be). I would though still describe him as relatively attractive and his genetics have given him an amazing body naturally.

Relationshipwise things have their ups and downs, and obviously there have been glaring issues due to our different positions on the road of life (I'm a full time working professional already done with college, he is just planning to start college).

Physical intimacy wise, things have been very good. I am able to please him and he does everything he can to please me, which has kept me very satisfied.

Recently we've opened up the possibility of having other partners join us (either together or separately), perhaps because we've been at it for almost 2 years and want to try new things. This was all at my initiation, not his.

What I'm trying to deal with is my attraction to younger looking guys. Specifically around 18-20 years old usually with shaggy/straightish thick hair (skater look I guess) and thin/lean/muscular bodies (the age doesn't actually matter, but most men any older don't have such looks). It doesn't matter how much sex (or hard/deep it was) I've had or even if I'm with my boyfriend in public. I can't keep my eyes off these kinds of guys, and perhaps it's because we desire most what we've never been able to have. I've gone as far as looking up guys on escort sites, though I've never actually done more than browse.

Is my desire healthy? I've had since it was in high school or even earlier (staring at every attractive guy that fits that physical description, and I do it all the time I'm in public). Is it possible for me to possible bring someone into my life like this as an actual friend (and not a prostitute) or is my head in the clouds?

[InbetweenDreams]

I know this is an old thread I'm replying to, but just in case you (or anyone reading this) haven't reconciled your feelings about this matter. Being 25 and attracted to guys who are 18-20 doesn't strike me as unusual.

I will say that more attention should be given to the non-physical aspects. There's a lot of hot guys out there but a lot of people simply don't match up and sometimes it takes years for things to unravel. People do change over time, not just physically.

Bottom line is, go after what you think is attractive but be willing to make compromises in exchange of (hopefully) having a better and lasting relationship.

As far as polygamy goes. I personally think it is ok so long as you can make it work. Making it work is tricky I'd think. I can see jealously and selfishness getting in the way of things quite quickly depending on the personalities of those involved.