07-30-2009, 01:21 PM
Category: Romance and Relationships
So I went on a date with someone tonight. Well, first off, this just randomly came to me a while ago while I was tryna fall asleep. Anyway, this person was funny and very interesting all the times that we hung out in a group setting. He would text me funny things, and make me laugh, he was just an all-around great guy. So I'm totally comfortable around him, and he says he is around me too. GREAT! I'm thinking, this is terrific! Finally, he asks me out to hang out. I mean we went out for a light dinner type thing, I had a yummy artichoke foccacia and Pelegrino, he had basil and tomato toast and wine. Very nice time. We talked and just chilled. I mean it was perfect! Then as the night progressed I wanted to avoid us ending up at a club. I mean, to me that really isn't a date. So we just kinda walked around downtown Phoenix, (BEAUTIFULbytheway!), looked at places I had never noticed. Took in the view of the city. It really is fascinating. So we do that for an hour or so. Then we go a ways to get dessert at a coffee shop. We chill and relax yet again. Inevitably we go to one,(aclub) you all in the valley might know of which one I speak of, it's "one of those pissant places." Don't get me wrong now, I love that place. I just didn't want to go there with a date. So we go there and we start dancing, and then having a few drinks. It's still going fairly well, I mean we aren't blowing off each other for other people (nopunintended). Then I decide to go out to the patio and just have some fresh air, he follows and we sit there and start talking again. AND HE DOES IT!!! THE ONE THING THAT TOTALLY TURNS ME OFF IN A HEARTBEAT!!! THE ONE THING THAT TOTALLY ASTOUNDS ME ABOUT SOME PEOPLE!!! He goes into detail about his sex-life. I mean stuff like how many random guys he has gone home with, or that he thinks he has. Stuff like all the sexual encounters he's had. How he couldn't tell me how many people he has slept with. I guess I could understand his reason for telling me this, I mean he wasn't being cocky about it or anything. I just don't have to hear this right off the bat. I mean, I find that utterly disgusting. I can proudly say that I have never gone through the "whore phase", as one person put it. Seriously! All that did was make me feel different towards him. My interest went from, "okay, I could see myself dating him" to "Omigod, I shared a smart water with him a while back!" WHY do people feel the need to tell me this right off!?!?!? It should be something that is shared when you are near the point of saying, "okay, lets do this, lets be a couple." I will say I am responsible with my sex-life. As long as one of us is being safe, why share these gross things? Or at least share them immediately. I don't feel like I am doing anything wrong. My friends think I am being to judgemental. It's not that I am judging them, it's just that for me personally, I find that unappealing and unattractive. Not to mention tacky. I say save it for later, I don't need to know that right away. That is just a thought on something I had. It's a shame too........he really liked animals.
So I went on a date with someone tonight. Well, first off, this just randomly came to me a while ago while I was tryna fall asleep. Anyway, this person was funny and very interesting all the times that we hung out in a group setting. He would text me funny things, and make me laugh, he was just an all-around great guy. So I'm totally comfortable around him, and he says he is around me too. GREAT! I'm thinking, this is terrific! Finally, he asks me out to hang out. I mean we went out for a light dinner type thing, I had a yummy artichoke foccacia and Pelegrino, he had basil and tomato toast and wine. Very nice time. We talked and just chilled. I mean it was perfect! Then as the night progressed I wanted to avoid us ending up at a club. I mean, to me that really isn't a date. So we just kinda walked around downtown Phoenix, (BEAUTIFULbytheway!), looked at places I had never noticed. Took in the view of the city. It really is fascinating. So we do that for an hour or so. Then we go a ways to get dessert at a coffee shop. We chill and relax yet again. Inevitably we go to one,(aclub) you all in the valley might know of which one I speak of, it's "one of those pissant places." Don't get me wrong now, I love that place. I just didn't want to go there with a date. So we go there and we start dancing, and then having a few drinks. It's still going fairly well, I mean we aren't blowing off each other for other people (nopunintended). Then I decide to go out to the patio and just have some fresh air, he follows and we sit there and start talking again. AND HE DOES IT!!! THE ONE THING THAT TOTALLY TURNS ME OFF IN A HEARTBEAT!!! THE ONE THING THAT TOTALLY ASTOUNDS ME ABOUT SOME PEOPLE!!! He goes into detail about his sex-life. I mean stuff like how many random guys he has gone home with, or that he thinks he has. Stuff like all the sexual encounters he's had. How he couldn't tell me how many people he has slept with. I guess I could understand his reason for telling me this, I mean he wasn't being cocky about it or anything. I just don't have to hear this right off the bat. I mean, I find that utterly disgusting. I can proudly say that I have never gone through the "whore phase", as one person put it. Seriously! All that did was make me feel different towards him. My interest went from, "okay, I could see myself dating him" to "Omigod, I shared a smart water with him a while back!" WHY do people feel the need to tell me this right off!?!?!? It should be something that is shared when you are near the point of saying, "okay, lets do this, lets be a couple." I will say I am responsible with my sex-life. As long as one of us is being safe, why share these gross things? Or at least share them immediately. I don't feel like I am doing anything wrong. My friends think I am being to judgemental. It's not that I am judging them, it's just that for me personally, I find that unappealing and unattractive. Not to mention tacky. I say save it for later, I don't need to know that right away. That is just a thought on something I had. It's a shame too........he really liked animals.