10-21-2009, 07:25 PM
peterinmalaga Wrote:You are so courageous and I admire you so much. In time some (or all) of your family may accept you. I hope they do. My brother was the one who could not accept me and I have never seen him since. I do not regret this at all. However my brother's daughter has been wonderful in her support for me and my sister has been great too. Is there nobody in your family who might accept you? It doesn't have to be someone close to you: the closeness could come through the mutual respect between the two of you. You say your Dad was "okay"Do you mean OK, as in supportive or OK, as in "not quite so hostile"? Ask your gran and your mum if they can die happy in the knowledge that they harbour this hatred and rejection in their heart. Send them a copy of the movie “Prayers for Bobby” for Christmas: if that does not move them, they are a really hopeless case.See my dads side of the family they accepted me. I'm living with my cousin on my dads side and she has accepted me. Christ she even accepted me and she has three kids of her own and is letting my Partner move in with me. On my moms side her sister my aunt that is told me she accepted me but I don't talk to her much. Her ex Husband whom I still consider my uncle we still talk and I'm close to him.
If there is absolutely nobody in the wider family who will accept you for the time being, then you must find yourself another family. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could choose our family? Well, we can! Your boyfriend's family can be yours too. Or you can build a family out of friends, gay and straight. Of course we all love you here but you need more than a “virtual” family and it will take a little time to find the right people. But you will do it and they will be better than the people who are now hurting you.
Lots of love and virtual hugs.
Peter
PS I am a Leo too. We are stubborn buggers aren't we? But we get there in the end!
You know i did think about getting the prayers for bobby and showing my Grandma that movie. I hope it would move her but I'm also afraid that she is just gonna push away. I could be wrong on that.
I have to admit yes us Leos are stubborned buggers. My Partner is getting a taste of that lol since moving in with me. Thinks for the love and virtual hugs lol.