Unnaccepting family...

[JACOB-GABRIEL]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Im going to try my best but ultimately i really couldnt care what other people think about me. My sexuality does not define me, im still the same person i was before and me being out as gay doesnt not change me. It just makes me a happier more open person.

Now i can go out and find a boyfriend. Oh wait i already done that in the past lol! Being not open about my sexuality hasnt stopped me from doing certain things because i went ahead and done them anyway. Life is too short, if you want something, you have to go for it

Peace
xxx

[princealbertofb]

Hi Fred,
thanks for your reply. I appreciate it a lot. :o)

My brother told my mum i was gay and later my sister told her that he was lying and that im in fact straight. I guess she was worried about my mother because she has been through a lot lately. I had no intention of telling her until the time was right.

Whilst i was working on my assignment, she came into my room and said that if she finds out that i am in fact gay like my brother says then she would show me the door without looking back. It was obvious she was upset when she said that because it appeared as though she was crying before.

My mum was accepting of my friends who are gay because she believes that God created them that way. She is of the view that homosexuality is not a choice. However, she does not agree with 2 men living together and sharing a bed.

She was easy to talk to until my brother made things worse by outing me and then claiming that anyone who tells me that its right are doing wrong. He has known about my sexuality for quite some time now but he thought it would be entertaining to out me in front of everyone when i specifically told him not to because it did not concern him and that its a very serious issue.

Hope i cleared things up :o)

Jacob

Jacob, hello and welcome to GaySpeak... I think your mother must be quite confused and she seems to have a lot of issues with gays. What happened to your dad, I'd like to ask? Why is he not part of the family picture? Could something have happened between your mum and him that had something gay related?
I don't know what your brother was trying to achieve by telling your mother, but it certainly was not fair to you and very uncool. As Fred says, try to concentrate on your exams, since you have other things to attend right now that are not related to your sexuality.
Of course you are gay, if you've known for almost those 21 years that you've lived (I suspect you've only more recently acquired the sense that you were gay, it's not something we suspect in the crib).
I hope you will be able to see through all this without too much acrimony. May I suggest, if things do turn out sour, that there are associations and helplines that can probably be reached in your area to help you sort things out.
Good luck with your exams, and I hope your mother will come to her senses and renege what she said formerly.

[XRIMO]

I know you said you are worried about being kicked out, but is perhaps finding a place of your own an option at all?

As Fred said too, give them time to think about it. If they continue to have problems with your sexuality. Sit down and have a talk with them, let them know that you are who you've always been. Something like who you love shouldn't cause them any concern.

Anyway, good luck Jacob and I hope everything works out for you.