ex-boyfriend problems

[cgheebs1234]

Soooo...I will try to make this long story short. I dated my ex for two months. The first month was amazing, the second month sucked. He broke up with me Feb 15th. About a week and a half later we met up to return eachother's stuff. He told me "he's just not ready to be in a relationship with anyone". We both agreed we wanted to be friends but we both needed time before we hung out again. Well, the next day I was at the gym with our mutual friend Sarah and he shows up knowing I would be there. He ignores me pretty much and just talks to Sarah. The next day I call him up because I was in a strangely mellow mood and told him that " we either get back together, or we cant be friends until I'm over him." He also tells me that when he saw me at the gym all he wanted to do was kiss me etc, he also agrees we cant be friends until he is over me.... So through the power of Sarah's Facebook I find out he's been hooking up with his 38 year old friend ( my ex is 24 ). I'm not mad at him for hooking up with someone, it's more dissapointment. We both told eachother sex is important and should only be done with people you care about, but on the other hand, he has every right to hook up with someone, he is single....anyways, I havent said a word to him for 3 weeks, Sarah and I went shopping yesterday and we both didn't think he was working...he was. More awkward small talk and quick glances....But what I've come to realize is that I don't have romantic feelings for him anymore. It was a two month relationship that sucked for half of it. And I'm sick of grieving this relationship. It's almost more awkward because we don't talk. We have mutual friends and I'm sick of everyone sugarcoating everything and whenever they mention him they get all quiet...so...I guess I'm wondering if I should friend him again on facebook, or send him a text, just saying hi. I'm wondering if I should be friends with him again. He is very much a social butterfly and I'm not. He prefers quantity over quality and I prefer quality over quantity, and when I called him up 3 weeks ago he got offended when I told him that I couldn't be friends with him, and he also got angry when I told him people thought he was stringing me along during the week and a half after we broke up......so, should I be friends with him again?, because it seems like he cares about the friendship we did have.

[marshlander]

Friends is about more than Facebook status. I'm the sort of person who would probably just leave it as it is and deal with encounters as and when they happen. I'm sure someone else will tell you differently!

Good luck.

[princealbertofb]

You two don't seem to have sorted yourselves out, nor what you want in life or of each other... Maybe you need time apart to figure it out?