06-27-2010, 11:14 PM
Hi, im lee =D (well, you would never have guessed from the name) and im 17 (few weeks until im 18 whoooo!) I am just finishing my final college exams at the moment, only 1 left! :biggrin:
well, i dont really know were to start, i kind of stumbled across this website by accident, i was looking for information on coming out, and came across this forum, which seems to be one of a very few that arent pure sleeze, and every one seems genuinely nice and helpful.
So, more on the coming our business, its all kind of complicated, i have been in a long distance relationship for just over 2 years now, and touch wood all is still going well, and soon we will both be at uni's which are 30 mins apart! (cant wait!!) :biggrin: (rather than literally opposite ends of the country) so that has allowed me to still hide in narnia, but at the same time helped me pluck up the courage to come out to some of my close friends, who have all been great about it so far. i will never be the kind of guy who tells every single person i meet, thats just not me, but obviously i would want to tell my parents. I am 'straight acting', and everyone i have asked had no idea i was gay until i told them, but there have been a few slip ups with the parents, so im pretty sure now they know im gay, they arent stupid people, so they must know! the only problem is, there have been occasions were they have passed comments about gay people, which havent exactly been the things i want to hear. so now im having the little war in my head, do i tell them or dont i? i know i want to tell them, and i will tell them, its just finding the right time! At the moment im just finishing my final exams at college, so im going to wait until thats over before i tell them, dont want to add any more stress to the situation. i dont really know what im trying to say here, i supose it just helps to get it off my chest. so ye, appologies for the essay and the rant, but does any one have any tips for coming out? is it a "mum, dad, sit down, i have got something to tell you" situation, or is it one that you just pop in there one day? im just so confused about how and when to tell them, all i know is the sooner, the better!
Thanks you very much for reading my rant, im sorry if it doesnt make much sense, my brain is mushed at the moment from exams!
And thanks in advance for any help, hope to get to know you all!
Speak soon, take care
Lee
well, i dont really know were to start, i kind of stumbled across this website by accident, i was looking for information on coming out, and came across this forum, which seems to be one of a very few that arent pure sleeze, and every one seems genuinely nice and helpful.
So, more on the coming our business, its all kind of complicated, i have been in a long distance relationship for just over 2 years now, and touch wood all is still going well, and soon we will both be at uni's which are 30 mins apart! (cant wait!!) :biggrin: (rather than literally opposite ends of the country) so that has allowed me to still hide in narnia, but at the same time helped me pluck up the courage to come out to some of my close friends, who have all been great about it so far. i will never be the kind of guy who tells every single person i meet, thats just not me, but obviously i would want to tell my parents. I am 'straight acting', and everyone i have asked had no idea i was gay until i told them, but there have been a few slip ups with the parents, so im pretty sure now they know im gay, they arent stupid people, so they must know! the only problem is, there have been occasions were they have passed comments about gay people, which havent exactly been the things i want to hear. so now im having the little war in my head, do i tell them or dont i? i know i want to tell them, and i will tell them, its just finding the right time! At the moment im just finishing my final exams at college, so im going to wait until thats over before i tell them, dont want to add any more stress to the situation. i dont really know what im trying to say here, i supose it just helps to get it off my chest. so ye, appologies for the essay and the rant, but does any one have any tips for coming out? is it a "mum, dad, sit down, i have got something to tell you" situation, or is it one that you just pop in there one day? im just so confused about how and when to tell them, all i know is the sooner, the better!
Thanks you very much for reading my rant, im sorry if it doesnt make much sense, my brain is mushed at the moment from exams!
And thanks in advance for any help, hope to get to know you all!
Speak soon, take care
Lee