Your mom seems to have handle this very well though ... mine caught me smoking and she went bazak.
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Well there’s ‘coming out’ and there’s ‘being outed.’ This was a bit of both in away and very recent too. I had find out I was gay for sometime but kept it to online peers and really close friends. I was at my god mum’s house and her friend was there who is quite brainy and has studied psychology so had a good judgement upon people’s personalities and image. She guessed I was gay, told my mum god mum and she questioned me privately and for once in my life I didn’t deny I was gay. Next morning she blabbed to my parents and then the awkward day came when I had to confirm what they had heard and I said yes I am. Dad was giving me funny looks like I was a television set with a good film on! Mum kept quiet and the rest were buttoned too for a short while.
After a few days and currently now everything is fine now though it can still get awkward if the topic of sexuality or sex get into conversation with my parents or when we are at my god mum’s house. The end. :biggrin:
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Hahaha, i wish i had been 'outed'. It was a shock to my parents when i told them. I also turn red and want to disappear from earth when, for instance, there's a hot man on TV and we're all watching on dinner... i'll have to get used to that...
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drocko17 Wrote:Hahaha, i wish i had been 'outed'. It was a shock to my parents when i told them. I also turn red and want to disappear from earth when, for instance, there's a hot man on TV and we're all watching on dinner... i'll have to get used to that...
Yeah that's the awkward moments I still get. My dad said the other day while two gays were on the television, 'oh they're gay' and looked at me. I just didn't know where to put my eyes, on the television or on my dad's random comment so went into the kichen, lol.
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i never expected the response i got. when my parents found out by searching my room/computer years back, when i ws bout 14 they went mental and took away literally everythin i cud hav ever enjoyed. computer, tv, games, music but tht ws fine in comparison to th endless array of arguments i had with them. it rly fealt like WWIII no exageration. things wer made worse cos i had met this guy off the net - but they cud never understand he was 15 he was normal and he wasnt a pervert. lol they insisted he was somebody tryin to get naked pictures of me for the porn industry. and rly i think th bombshell of me bein gay turned my parents a bit nutty - my mum mor than my dad, but he was violent. physically.
so, obviously in light of all this i had to get support from somewhere else, so i told my closest friend at th time, hes very straight but took it well then one by one over bout a month. til all my closest friends knew. well, they helped me travel to london to see this guy id met before and we had our relationship etc etc he was lovely but thats passed now. neway, then i told mates on a coach cos my other friend ws bein annoyd cos she had admitted to bein bi n she was getin quite angry at the attention. so this one geezer thought itd be funny to tell all th chavs at school, who laughed etc etc and poked fun and asked silly question WHICH i answered. which stalled them because people expect you to be quiet about it rather than open. they dont understand so i gave them xplanation. then of course word got about and pretty much the whole year knew by mid year 10 id say. and they were completely cool with it. people are fascinated and if u giv em th time of day, theyl respect u for that. THEN teachers knew, THEN randomers from other schools knew. it was a bit of a 'only gay' scenario. and seriously i was chummy with all these people, then really gd friends, until i valued everybody in my year so much and i rly miss them all now iv left. but then funny thing ws cos id come out 'straight' guys in my year wer sort of tryin things out on me - one or two properly touchy feely, discoverin themselves you know but a few just talking to em for advice.
iv kept this attitude up at work and at college, everywhere i go, because people appreciate your honesty and really, the chaviest of chavs will get on with u if u show u can accept them too. as for my parents, theyv calmed down a little IN TWO YEARS - its taken a while but after so long being angry at them for 'wreckin' my life i had to jus sit back and think, ok, they were nasty but if it wernt for what they did i wudnt b who i am today, so i try to be as honest as i can but u kno, i stil find it hard to forget. in return theyv given me back some responsibilty and independance. which is lovely. they stil drop th odd bombshell like 'WE FOUND THIS IN YOUR DRAWER!' and i kno they hav spies n shit to keep an eye which pisses me off but hey, hopefully things will continue to improve. i never would hav thought id be on a computer again, that was for sure! coming out doesnt have to be a rollercoaster but however u lk at it, dont stay in the closet.
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GOOD GOD. that was a novel and a half ^^^ sorry about that, got a bit carried away! 
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That is just so beautiful! good on you 
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My story isn't very intersting, then again i've only come out to one person. I just recently came out to one of my very best friends. I was so nervous i thought i was gonna throw up, but i finally told her. she said she started crying and she didn't even know why. she asked a few questions like well what about what the catholic church thinks, and how do you know for sure that you're really gay. she said that she always thought that we would end up together (so did i) but she was ok and we're still bff's.
we didn't talk about me being gay at all for weeks, until just yesterday. she seemed to think that being gay is like a hobby or a habit and you can just stop if you really want to. she also said that i should go see the preist at our church so i could understand why i'm gay, i told her she was insane and that i didn't like our preist (no one does). i tried to explain it to her and i hope she gets it. also, now she thinks that i should tell my other best friends. so if i can get up the courage i plan on telling at least one of my bff's today (who is a guy) so wish me luck.
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Despite being gay for ages and having told my friends and family, i still find that some of my friends don't know I'm gay. These are the friends I dont' talk to much or think wouldn't be too happy about it.
Two of them especially worry me, but I've decided now to come out to the final few of my friends. The problem is they're 100% dedicated Christians who firmly believe that all homosexuals are the spawn of satan and will burn. Now, they're friends with me through other friends, but over the years I've come to like them for who they are rather than their religion as I've never challenged it before - until now.
With this coming out, I will basically be standing for everything they are scared of and I may lose them as a result. I'm scared to tell them so I'm putting it off but that said I'd rather they found out from me than from a third party. The question and problem is - how do I comeout to those who will try to burn me afterwards? Should I bother?
Also, a relative of mine seems to think I'm not gay; rather, I'm bi. He thinks that being bi isn't 'as bad' as being gay. But, for f*cks sake, what difference does it make for him to accept the truth! Jesus. Its mad! I don't know if its homophobia, but it really is scary. Its as though he thinks I'll grow out of it and accept my straight side. Or maybe he thinks I'm straight but I just screw men...
This is a bit of ramble, but if anyone has any thoughts they'd be appreciated.
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well my story isn't so interesting as Ive only come out to about 3 friends anyways heres my story ^^
just acouple of week ago i told a close friend (guy) he was shocked but he said it was kool, we dont talk about it though recently i told a female friend who says shes bi she was wow'd haha asking how do i know ect.. i told another female friend whos lesbian so she was glad that she wasnt the only one lol we met up just last week non stopped talked about who we like and many other things  and im planning on telling my closest friend (guy) tonight if he comes on msn i cant tell him face to face as hes moved, he asked me if i was acouple of days ago but i never replyed he said he wouldnt mind if i was so yeah im guna tell him wish me luck ^^
as for my mum... still thinking on how im guna tell her :S some advice would be great pm me. anyways thats my life story haha hope u enjoyed ^_^
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