hi, im new to this, but here i go. im 17 and so so so alone. i have my friends to chill with and talk to, but their all straight, and even though their coolz with me being gay, its sometimes hard 2 tell them about being lonely. even though i have them i feel like i need something else. somebody to hold me and tell me everything will be ok at night and to tell me they love me. i have been looking out her in hawaii for some1 since i knew i was gay and have thus far failed. ive met plenty of cute guys but all their status quotes are "NSA" no strings attached. how messed up is that? and everyone else are way older than me. i hae no problem with older guys, in fact i know some sey studly ones but i want someone my own age. anyways, i cant get over this feeling that only part of my heart is beating, and that the other piece is constantly out of my reach and beyond my grasp.
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Hello and welcome. :]
Gentle and romantic souls like you are often times lonely in this world because they seek much deeper things than what is visible on the surface of life, if you'll forgive me that I allowed myself to define you.
I would recommend you tried finding nice people online, like in this site. I think that this would really help you feel at least a little less lonely. Then, you shouldn't worry no matter how much it hurts to be lonely and single. As long as you keep looking for the right person, everything will eventually come in place.
I don't know if this might actually help, but I think that writing and/or reading works related to what is on your mind may be very relaxing and may even bring happiness.
Don't worry. On this website you will find many nice guys willing to help and be friends.
Good Luck.
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Hey codis,
I know its frustrating, and that really comes across in your post. Maybe you could focus on trying to establish some good gay friendships before worrying about finding a boyfriend? If you do that you may feel less isolated, and you might meet people who are not just looking for no strings fun
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I would definitely agree with DtotheJtotheM. I can't remember where I heard this but someone said you have to fully love yourself before you can love someone else. I took that to mean you should be able to make yourself happy before you can expect anyone else to. Still, I know exactly how you feel. I struggle with the same feelings. I just try not to think "what if i had a boyfriend?" or that there's something missing from my life that I can't provide myself. I don't know if that's the right thing to do, but it works for me. Hope this helps and that you start feeling less lonely
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Don't try and get over the feeling, but don't forget you have a life too. Get on with that and let the rest take care of itself in its own good time. They may not meet all your desires, but it's great to have good friends. Friendships at your age are very important ones.
May you find what you seek.
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Look outwards as well as inwards. You can only love yourself, if you also love other people. Say something and do something to help other people. Then you can really love yourself and will be more attractive to the right guy when he comes along.
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Now that I read all the comments, I remembered a video that might be very useful for you. Maybe you've already seen it, but if not, I hope you like it.
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