My boyfriend just broke up with me!

[biguy101]

Hello,

I am 24, going to graduate college in May with a marketing degree and I need some advise. Tonight but boyfriend of about 7 months just broke with me. We are both Bi and he broke up with me for another Bi guy he had been seeing for about a month or so. We are still going to be friends but I just don't know if he's making the right choice.

They have known each other since January but started dating so to speak in June
They made it "official" August 8th and they have had sex. My boyfriend told me that he feels like he can conquer the world when he's around him and that he thinks about him all the time. They have already talked about going out to California and getting married in the future.

My ex just got a nursing job and has started looking at houses. He said he's going to have him move in when he buys one. He said he is on a different level with him than he was with me.

His new guy is in an "open" relationship with the mother of his like 5 year old son and my ex said that she will not take him moving in with my ex very well and that her friends are very dangerous. His new guy works at advance auto parts and did not go to college...he is 28.

My ex was my first sexual experience and first true love. He said in the future if things don't work out between them we might can try again. He still wants to be friends and wants to still do stuff on a regular basis. He cried and broke down when he told me about his feelings.

I just wanted to see what you all thought about this and if you thought it is still a good idea to do stuff together. My ex also said that his new bf is very jealous.

I am not going to let it drag me down though because the sun will still come up tomorrow, however I am still hurting inside. I just feel like this is one of those falling in love too fast predicaments.

Please give me some advise if you can.

[marshlander]

Sorry to read about your sadness. Breaking up is always tough, but usually tougher on one than the other.

It sounds like you are well out of this one. The situation sounds very murky, what with 5 year old children, dangerous friends and the like.

Staying "friends" ... isn't that something we say when we are trying to soften the blow of finishing a relationship? Be honest, being friends with someone you'd rather have as a lover is only going to hurt and his new relationship will always be a reminder of what you don't have.

Best wishes to you.

[Genersis]

I feel both of you need to be carefull.
Your Ex because it is a new relationship, and, obviously it might not work out. And you need to be carefull with how protective you are towards him.

Its ok to worry about him, but he is an independed human being and can make his own disisions, you can't tell him what he can and can't do.
Just make sure he is being carefull, without seeming too protective or controlling of him.(Remember, your friends now, not boyfriends)

Sorry if this doesn't make much sense.:redface:

[Genersis]

Sorry to read about your sadness. Breaking up is always tough, but usually tougher on one than the other.

It sounds like you are well out of this one. The situation sounds very murky, what with 5 year old children, dangerous friends and the like.

Staying "friends" ... isn't that something we say when we are trying to soften the blow of finishing a relationship? Be honest, being friends with someone you'd rather have as a lover is only going to hurt and his new relationship will always be a reminder of what you don't have.

Best wishes to you.

And Marshlanders right. That is "IF" you want to be friends.....

[biguy101]

Thanks for the advice! My ex texted me last night and asked me if I want to do something next week.

The more I think about it though the more it makes me mad..he lied to me. If we were to every try it again...trust would be a BIG issue.

BTW...I have a date for tonight!

[Genersis]

Your welcome.mile:

Hope the date goes well!:biggrin:
Might be just what you need to help you move on.mile:

[SlipknotRlZZ]

I am sorry to hear about the break up. :/

I just came across a eh...group on Facebook that is named "Ex-es who are still friends are either still in love, or never were." I think that he still feels something for you, but since he has chosen to be with the other guy, you shouldn't play along and do stuff with him while he is in a relationship. I mean, yeah, he lied to you.
I also think he has not made the right choice. Things may not work out well. But then, I also don't think you should get involved as he has decided to stick to the other guy and everything that comes with him.

Good luck! Have a nice date! :]

[peterinmalaga]

I am very sorry about the way you have been treated but you would do well to remember where the problem originated. Go out/ have fun/ have sex with anyone you want and whenever you want but I would suggest that it might be wise to keep well clear of your ex. He has left you once. Don't give him the opportunity to do it again. It's about self preservation. Unfortunately your first lover probably has a bigger hold over you than any subsequent one. I think you need a clean break from him and it would not be wise to see him again for a year or so.

[biguy101]

Aug 14, 2010 5:18 PM GMT
Thank you all for the advice I really appreciate it! I am moving on, I'm not waiting around! That what his last ex is doing (they are currently still roommates) and he is going to kick him out with that new guy moves in. My ex broke up with his 1st love (a girl) the exact same way he did me, started seeing this guy (his ex before me) and whipped out the feelings changing on his girlfriend. Same thing with his ex before me (of 5 years)...said his feelings changed, only then he wanted to "explore his curiosity" and hooked up with about 8-10 guys before he met me. So, I'm beginning to think he can't really be satisfied....haha! He does the exact same then with vehicles, he switches around a lot!

By the way, I saw this coming...in June he said he was going his mom's for the night, forgot his charger and said that he was gonna turn of his phone to save power and he'd talk to me tomorrow. Then I noticed he began not wanting to do much sexual activities and wouldn't say I love you or I miss you as much. We went to the beach the weekend after the 4th with his roommate (ex). In the evenings when we would be out walking around he would fall behind and sometimes stop because he was TEXTING so much!! Then within the past couple weeks he stopped saying I love you and miss you all together and last weekend he litterally ignored me the entire weekend (last weekend was when they made it "official" and had sex. Then on Tuesday...BAM!

Don't worry I am mad at what he did and the more I think about it...the madder I get!