09-10-2010, 10:47 AM
Hi there Jayden,
I think your intuition is absolutely, and unquestionably right. I think you are an affair; and someone he is very emotionally attracted to. I also think that that will always be the extent of your relationship (the PDA, is a bonus), sorry :-(
Additionally, from what i've read and understood, he and his ex, are now sleeping in the same bed together, which indicates to me some form of mending. Which can and possibly will lead to a reconciiation.
I think you have not set any guidelines with him when you two were initially conversing. You exchanged experiences, to which both of you have similarly shared, and it was at this point you inadvertently gave him permission to use you. And you continue to... as you have said, and I quote "these things, I do not find an issue, I like this guy, so I can deal with it." And you continue to give him permission with your empathy as you've again said, "Which I totally understand if this is the case..." And you make vows to stay friends, yet you are desperately hoping there is something more. There is nothing more. You can say, "we both know it's more." But, you know there is nothing more to it.
My advice, is to move, on. Find somebody else who is more deserving of your love and time. Besides, which person does not want to hurt their ex. I would like to kill mine, and many others feel the same way I do. However, if you feel strongly about him the way you do, dive right in, but be prepared, do not allow him to catch you unaware.
I think your intuition is absolutely, and unquestionably right. I think you are an affair; and someone he is very emotionally attracted to. I also think that that will always be the extent of your relationship (the PDA, is a bonus), sorry :-(
Additionally, from what i've read and understood, he and his ex, are now sleeping in the same bed together, which indicates to me some form of mending. Which can and possibly will lead to a reconciiation.
I think you have not set any guidelines with him when you two were initially conversing. You exchanged experiences, to which both of you have similarly shared, and it was at this point you inadvertently gave him permission to use you. And you continue to... as you have said, and I quote "these things, I do not find an issue, I like this guy, so I can deal with it." And you continue to give him permission with your empathy as you've again said, "Which I totally understand if this is the case..." And you make vows to stay friends, yet you are desperately hoping there is something more. There is nothing more. You can say, "we both know it's more." But, you know there is nothing more to it.
My advice, is to move, on. Find somebody else who is more deserving of your love and time. Besides, which person does not want to hurt their ex. I would like to kill mine, and many others feel the same way I do. However, if you feel strongly about him the way you do, dive right in, but be prepared, do not allow him to catch you unaware.