Can't determine myself, am I or not !

[princealbertofb]

I agree with Marshlander & Conechvn here. I don't think being top or bottom makes much sense. There's a lot of yin and yang going on in any relationship so while one is giving, the other must be taking; but it may become a problem when both want to give and neither want to take, or the other way round. This generally doesn't happen too often when we want the relationship to work. It's really a question of balancing the idea of offer and demand in every case. Most couples (not only gay ones) will eventually make things fall into place.