Help with finding a boyfriend

[Marty1987]

Hi all, I am relatively new and havent posted here in a while.

Well I thought abit about posting here, but was too nervous to do it until now. Apologies for my eratic wording as not really thinking about the sentence structure and how long the post is. Also this is abit emotionally raw for me as well.

Firstly I have always thought about being in a relationship, and have been close to being in one a few occassions but have just fizzled out. I have also never had a boyfriend before, so I don't know what to expect which is partly why I'm still single. The other fact that I have some issues as well make it alittle harder as well.

The issues I have are that I'm shy, have an anxiety disorder which limits me to where I feel comfortable, lack in self confidence and belief. Also have autistic tendencies, I tend to be by myself alot and tend to keep a distance emotionally from people as not to get hurt (which isn't good I know).

Now the point of this is I would like help in finding a boyfriend, because I know I have some good qualities in being a potential boyfriend. I just would like someone who is compatible, encouraging, and someone who I can be friends and lovers with.

Thanks for taking the time to read my post and hope to hear some good suggestions.

NB. I would like to add that as mentioned this is abit raw for me, I would like constructive suggestions please. Thanks

[princealbertofb]

Hello and again Marty... Can you explain why all this is so 'raw'? Do you mean new? Do you mean that it's been a sore point for you? How long has it been since you've actually accepted that you were gay? And btw, good for you for finally daring to write that post. Bravo!

[toomuch45]

hi marty im autistic too welcome hopefully youll find someone here

[Marty1987]

I mean about emotions and revealing myself and insecurities etc. I've known I was gay since I was about 14 I think, and I always accepted myself as I am really but I knew I was different when I was younger. Thanks

[Marty1987]

Hi toomuch45, thanks, Ive been on here a while as a viewer mainly, but this is my second post. hope to meet someone too.

[princealbertofb]

In your opinion, Marty, does your autism make things difficult with the way you relate to other people in general? What qualities would a boyfriend need to have to be comfortable with you?

[Marty1987]

Well with my autistic traits, which i dont have much so it isnt noticeable, i can misinterpret body language and tend to see things in black and white mostly (not literally see black and white). I think the qualities they would need to have are patience, encouragment, empathy, and there are probably others but cant think of any at the moment though.

[princealbertofb]

I think your boyfriend ought to be in a nursing or caring profession then... What do you have to offer a nice bloke then? Looks? Humour? Energy? what sort of gifts have you got?

[Pseudo Rob]

You seem like an interesting and kind person. I'm sure you'll find someone some day and, because you have an anxiety disorder, perhaps it would be best for you to use the internet to help you find a boyfriend (dating sites, sites such as this one etc)? But I dont know how bad your anxiety is, so you're the better judge obviously.

I dont think I've ever had what most people would consider a proper boyfriend. Gays do find it harder to hook up early in life compared to hetrosexuals, so dont worry if you know people around your age who already have a relationship.

[archiely]

have skype ??????? just chat
anw, wish u will find a good bf ^^