Fame or Love?

[LoveGame]

I am going to college, then decide if I will stay with him or pursue fame.

College doesn't hurt, and I'll get it for free.

yeah, college, and fancy trips too. I can't regret that.

This relationship does feel funny playing the dumb "bimbo" lmao.

[toomuch45]

The question your asking is more:
Possible Fame and Money or Deffinate Money in a possibly unhappy relationship?

And to be honest. I wouldn't go for either.
But if i must pick. I'd say possible fame and money. As i'd be true to feelings. Rather than marry a guy for his money, which could hurt us both.

I really can't see how you are willing to marry a guy for his money. It makes little sense to me.
If you're not in a marriage for "Love". It just isn't going to last. What if he devorces you? Or you get tired of the relationship and decide to get a devorce yourself? I find it unlikely that you will keep much of that money he has.

You said you love him. But it sounds to me that he's just a tool to you, easy money. Sorry if that sounded harsh.:redface:

And on a side note. Don't get too confidant. There's no guarentee you'll become famous.
You should have a fallback plan. A Plan B if the fame route doesn't panout.

i honestly agree

[azulai]

What? So that's a no. You just reminded me of this guy I know who is named Tony.

I guess it's not you though.

So, maybe someone else has had the same misgivings about your situation as I have?

I am going to college, then decide if I will stay with him or pursue fame.

College doesn't hurt, and I'll get it for free.

yeah, college, and fancy trips too. I can't regret that.

This relationship does feel funny playing the dumb "bimbo" lmao.

See, this right there tells me that there is so much more to you. It tells me that YOU realize you need to spend a lot more thought on this issue you have.

You need to see that there is more to you than being someone's possession. You want an easy way to financial security, but, you know what? That stupid saying: "money can't buy you happiness" -- I kind of think it's true. Self-worth and dignity that come from inside yourself are going to give you meaning, and the self-respect ^^^ that you obviously seek.

So, don't rush to marry this guy. Have you thought that verbal control may lead to physical control? What if you meet someone later and actually fall in love? What if while you're in college, you meet someone your own age and you want to spend time with him? What if you say no to your bf and he hits you? There are no "shelters" for battered gay-guys. This sounds like a plot to a bad TV Drama. Is this guy also selecting your major for you?

You say you lack talent, are considering porn, and stuff but have you considered just getting a job? Have you considered figuring out what your talents really are? Have you considered that YOU may need time to just figure yourself out? Where are your freaking friends? Your family?

Why do you want to be a celebrity? A celebrity, really? I always viewed them as miserable people that yes, have money but also more problems and addictions than simple old you or me.

The thing that concerns me is that all your options revolve around using: using someone to get ahead, allowing yourself to be used by someone else, and the porn thing is allowing an industry to use you. Yeah, I watch it but come on, I get the sense that you don't want that for yourself. I also think they have other jobs to supplement their income.

Everyone has dreams, but I think as we get older those dreams need to turn into goals that are based in reality.

So, I hope you hang around. I hope we can argue some more about this. :biggrin: I don't think YOU've found your solution yet.

[LoveGame]

Well I have not found my solution, but I have to go down the right path to be alright money-wise, and that’s the most important object to me. Porn is degrading, more or less, but it is good money and it’s easy. I don’t really want a 30-50 k lifestyle, but over 100k at least.

The guy really doesn’t want me to make any decisions after I am married, which turns me off, but the money… most people wouldn’t stick with it though…

Porn is my dream though; it is not as if I am thinking it is a bad thing at all. I support the industry. Porn and Music. Those are my dream jobs. If my goals are successful I think I will get porn, and gay porn at that, as a mainstream thing. I want many goals to be done for homosexual rights through me. Porn is in reality, but music is not.

If I was young forever porn would be awesome, but I won’t be. I have only now, between now and 25 yrs old to make it in music. After 30 I am done… and my fiancé will be wealthy..

My fiancé will land into millions… so I have to decide, “take the money of a celeb/go to college and be content” or do the dream.

It’s only these two choices, and there’s really no other choice for me in life, since I only want these two choices. I do not live my future for my family and I have no friends to name of.

I have a job, I work at a grocery store. I am 18.

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i can't send PMs since i have less than 10 posts... but I am doing fine you?

[azulai]

I have to study so I really can't stay on long. And, you know I have more to say.

Maybe tomorrow more of the regulars will be on and can give you better advice. You need input from people who are more street-smart than I am. I just don't believe you have only two choices, but ultimately it's your decision. Sometimes we think we are making decisions with our eyes wide open when they are actually squeezed tightly shut. Be careful, dude.

In the meantime check out this site on scholarships: Scholarships for LGBT & Allied Students .
There are also Pell Grants and Work Study programs.

I have no friends to name of.

I think you need to hang around and maybe try to build a support system made up of people who have no ulterior motives and only want you to make healthy choices. You need to be able to bat ideas around. Read old threads and learn from many of the regulars who have the wisdom of experience.

I do not live my future for my family

Good. You can help me with that one.

[fredv3b]

I want many goals to be done for homosexual rights through me.

I fear you will find that working in the porn industry will impede your ability to advance gay rights.

Also what would you do when you are too old for porn?

[The Virgin]

i don't consider porn as part of homosexual rights. but if you want to do something about gay rights, start first the media.