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Difficult question. I certainly think that, generally speaking, you should be open with new acquaintances. You can use opportunities to use gender non-specific language, but I think you should wait for the opportunity rather than bring it up.
Fred
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i observe people first. sometimes, you have to carefully analyze someone if they're not homophobic cause coming out to a person who'll not accept you for who you are might put you down.....
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I try to make it known earlier on, one way or another. Don't want to build up a good friendship with someone only to find that they can't accept my sexuality. Also, if it's a girl I am befriending, I'm always secretly afraid she'll think I'm coming on to her when I just want to be friends. I don't want her to get attached to me in a romantic way, so I try to make sure she knows before we really get to be friends.
I don't see a point in hiding it. I want my friends to be friends with me, not with a false idea of me.
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i have to admit though, i am not sure how to bring it up with new people.
i guess i can say after hanging out when time, oh btw, i am gay, i guess......
but yeah once i move out of my house i am definetely going to be a bit more open about it. unfortanatly i live in a fairly religious town right now so there are a lot of ignorant people around here lol. no offense to anyone :biggrin:
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actually, one of my tricks is that when a very cute guy walks by us, i say "wow, that guy sure is handsome, right?".... with that statement, they'll get what you mean...
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This is a good question and I'll answer my way. I personally don't wear my penis on my shoulder and don't quite frankly care if anyone knows about my gayness. I can keep my gayness all to myself. I don't hold hands in public, I don't kiss in public and find it repulsive when heterosexuals do so (Get a room).
As for telling it to old friends, an easy way to come out of the closet and let folks know you're gay, bi, pansexual, tri, whatever is to introduce them to your significant other. This usually works rather well. Except that one time.
I was at a gay party and someone invited a straight friend along for the ride (no pun intended folks). Regardless of the fact that many people were wearing pink shirts, rainbow colored bandana's/wrist bands/socks/sparkly pants and shirts that read "I Kiss Boys", this guy found out I was gay because I introduced him to my hubby. He was taken aback and immediately went to find some buff guys to "teach those faggots a lesson". So he got a few buff guys wearing rainbow wristbands and the double male symbol for showing gay pride and whatnot to come up to me. Dude was promptly kicked out of the party.
I guess he thought that we were going to attack him with blowjobs or something. Ignorance can't be helped, but the point of this whole thing is that not everyone is going to accept your sexuality and those that can't handle it, screw them, they weren't your friends to begin with.
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do you ever bring up your sexuality with new friends?
i guess its just weird that i can't be honest with everyone. im not even sure how to tell my old friends and i wont do it until my financial situations better cause it seems you tell one person, what goes around so im staying on the side of caution. right now only one person in the world knows for 'fact' that im not straight. at least i have him but i am cautious about telling people certain things i guess.
