Need a Boyfriend

[RainbowFlwrPowr]

So I used to have a boyfriend, but I found out some things about him I do not like.

So I am looking for a new boyfriend. I will admit I am not the cutest guy, the hottest guy, the skinniest, or the most fit boyfriend. But should it matter about what's on the inside and not the outside?



This is what I am looking for in my boyfriend:

• No criminal record (except minor traffic violations)
• Must be 18 - 25 years of age.
• Must have a sense of humor.
• Must support my political dreams.

I do not care if it is long distance or local.
Any takers?

[rakmatis]

I had a warrant for my arrest because my dogs registration was expired, does that count? also I have a sick twisted sense of humor that scares most people.

[zeon]

lol.... i wont reall off the bad things ive done... Mainly civil offences costing me hundereds of pounds but i did once get a speeding ticket for doing 49 MPH in a 30 zone and the officer told me if i went to 50 id go to court so i said.... My cars only a 1100cc... Takes a while to reach 50 lol.. He wasnt amused

[Paul1]

Hang on... what did the last boyfriend do to get dumped so speedily?

[toomuch45]

well im 23 but i barely have a sense of humor im a good guy though

[Lovelace]

You have a check list? Are you for real?

I know I've been boyfriend hunting for a long time -and I'm still single- but I've never used a "checklist"... You say you have personality, yet you are choosy about who you want as your boyfriend? I'm sorry but I think that is a very unattractive quality in a person... Do you really think Mr right is going to fit in your little checklist? Personally, I think you only want a boyfriend because you're too insecure to be alone or you just need your ego stroked...

[Paul1]

@Lovelace: Well you know they do say that creating a checklist works at helping you be unconsciously open to guys. Although most people's checklists are based on looks and personality rather than practicality.

I did giggle at "No criminal record". It's almost as if the OP thinks anyone with a criminal record is some psychopathic murder waiting to re-offend. In actual fact, people get criminal records for doing needless things for all sorts of reasons, e.g. alcohol/drug addictions, desperation (e.g. homelessness), depression, and plain old stupidity. Half of the crimes aren't really even crimes, like public urination, swearing, and this weird crime you have in North America called "jaywalking". Some crimes are accidental, e.g. a guy who accidentally killed his serially physically abusive x. Dunno about others, but I'd judge a guy on what he was like now and based on the full details of the crime.

My main concern would not be having a checklist, but that the last boyfriend seemingly got dumped immediately upon the discovery of unattractive facts (or that's how it sounds to me). We're all imperfect beings right, so naturally any partner is going to have their well hidden disadvantages. If we take the attitude that a partner should be perfect, then how long would it be before we discover qualities about the new boyfriend that we don't like and move onto the next? Imagine the poor insecure guy left behind, emotionally hurt for being so readily and harshly rejected.

[Gpbi]

Drug user but never get cough im still in your check list??

Come on my friend, Boyfriends are not like a supermarket list... You dont have "things that he should have". You have a walk and then you see a guys who has anything of your list or just some parts of it and you just fall in lova, what will you do?? Will you leave him just cause he is not having what you want exactly?
My opinion is that you are still mad with your ex... So take your time, and when you feel better and that you ve been over it, try to meet someone new, WITHOUT LISTS!!!

[jbrowder24]

I have no problem with people having preferences, I probably have too many, though a lot of them are flexible, just more 'ideals' not a check list of 'musts'. You do kind of contradict yourself when you say: "But should it matter about what's on the inside and not the outside?" and then go on to provide a list (granted only age is physical, but even with the record thing - not that you want a habitual offender - but if someone is on the right path isn't it what's inside them now and not their past that counts?)

More than that I am wondering how long it's been since the boyfriend you talk about? Because more than a list, it's the feeling you need to have a boyfriend that would make me hesitant if we fell within each others lists. But we don't so, so I guess just... why not focus on your political dreams you say you have? A lot of guys would be drawn to someone with ambition following their dreams.

[Wintereis]

Criminality: I am so ashamed. I have recently become a criminal. I had a warrant for my arrest. I was hauled off to jail in handcuffs, searched, photographed, everything. It was horrible. I forgot to pay a ticket. . . four days late, and I was in the clink. :tongue: