Gay Sex and being Disabled?

[joseph]

i think lot of peple think you can be gay or dissabled not gay and disabled im gay and disabled aswel.it is good you said your docter becase if somesthing can help it .very brave about sex. iv never had sex i wont to! im lucky becase not psiscialdisabled.but im unlucky becase learning disability sso no one wont to have sex with me.can i ask in here about loearning disability have sex,. can i gget aboyfrind abd sex

[Paul1]

EDIT: Oh so the previous post I made doesn't show up, but this one does *frustration*

RIGHT, I'm now at 20 posts. This is what I wanted to post. Would a moderator please delete my previous message!

@joseph: I did a google search and found http://www.outsiders.org.uk/leaflets/pld-leaflet

Any questions on personal issues like these can be asked on our Sex and Disability Helpline:

Post: Tuppy Owens, BCM Box Lovely, London WC1N 3XX

Email: [email protected]

Phone: 0707 499 3527 : The Helpline is open weekdays 11am to 7pm

I'd give them a ring or send an email, I think it's definitely worth it. I imagine joining societies and/or going to events particularly for disabled people is a good way of meeting people in a non-judgemental environment.

There's a BBC news article on disability and sex: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/7540103.stm

[zeon]

Hello,
If you partner is aware of the condition and he wants to make love with you then he should also contribute to ensure you have a good time as well... Disabilities dont stop people having fun ive known adults with ceralpausley have gay sex and they have enjoyed it... l know your condition is different but just ask him for some help because one day his going to have to help you get by hunni... l would not be frightened to ask him to support you and use a bit of his energy as you stated you cant go on as much as he may be able to do so...
Dont worry about finding any advice because advice is only words from so called professionals... Everyone is different and i WOULD advise from my own experiences of being gay the best teacher in this matter is yourself... Of course anything your unsure of please dont hesistate to ask us as thats what we are here for... Soon or later your find what position works for you..

Kindest regards

zeon xx

[sweetlad2010]

I found a dating site for disabled people too: View here http://www.dating4disabledgays.com/ - joseph you have look at it you never know lol...
It's not free though :frown:

Well I'm just alittle pissed off really because I kept finding really negatives stuff trying to disscarge disabled gay ppl. The NHS (UK) has done a report daming how so called professionals lack understanding. You guys ever heard of Sue's Law? You should look it up, trust my you would think the uk was still in the dark ages.

I havent found a bf but I'v meet a guy I want have some no strings fun with as I just want to have fun lol.

He's older than me by quite alot but I dont care, saying I am going to be really carefull. I cant tell my mum about it, well my family because I know what well happen..

I told my doctor I was gay/bi lol, and he said to me his there if I need to talk, plus I'm meeting someone from Men's Sexual Health tomoz.

I'm on a mission now though to do some research into lgbt sexual education for disabled people, there's a few charitys I know that will help me in this too, well I hope lol..

Thanks for all the advise people, but dont stop putting stuff up as I really think this inportant not just for me but others who are looking..

[joseph]

thankyou paul brillint leflit. swetlad i hope you docter is ok and get help. i hope it is everyone ok for you

[sweetlad2010]

Yeah the doctor is cool with it.

I'm meeting up with someone from Men's Sexual Health on 21st to talk a few things though xx

[Paul1]

Cool Hey you know, I don't know what kind of dating sites there are out there specifically aimed at disabled people+supportive, but IMO it'd be pretty cool to have such a dating site where people can also discuss questions and create articles on how to comfortably have sex and what not. And it should be free of course! Yay for "ad supported".

[marshlander]

As I was in London over the weekend I went into Gay's The Word and they couldn't find much, but they are now on the case. However I did come out with copies of "Queer Crips" (as mentioned by sweetlad), "Pilcrow" by Adam Mars-Jones and a study by David Abbott and Joyce Howarth entitled "Secret Loves, Hidden Lives - Exploring issues for people with learning difficulties who are gay, lesbian or bisexual" - along with a hefty credit card bill.

[sweetlad2010]

Sorry I should of said how much the Queer Crips book was, I think I'm going to save alittle and buy the book to. I've heard of the Secret Loves, Hidden Lives some where but I think that was a long time ago..

I think I may pay Gay's The Word a vistit next time I'm in London, the shop sounds interesting...

[zeon]

Sweetlad in every determination in life you light a flame inside... Keep that flame burning babes and keep shining bright... Regzrdless whether your disabled or not you have equal rights to someone like me where my eye sight is short but everything else works fine... Keep us informed how your progress is going u got my support if u need it 100% xx