07-18-2011, 02:13 AM
Don't beat yourself up over this, Jared. Again the time wasn't right...You know, you could also just write them a letter? That's what I did. I can't remember if you've got a boyfriend, Jared, but maybe you're waiting to tell your parents before anything like a boyfriend can happen. Of course you'd like them to love you and love your boyfriend as well. I hope they see it that way.
I don't know how to interpret the fact that they haven't said anything to you about you being gay. Maybe they are too discreet, some parents are like that... or possibly they are suspecting but they don't even want to think of it... because it makes them unconfortable? Is sexuality something that was discussed in your household? I get the feeling that there's a whole education missing there.
For me, the courage to disclose at last was because my mother invited me down for a weekend. I told her I had a friend staying with me. She said: "you can bring your friend too". That was when I realised that I didn't want to have to pretend that he was just a friend nothing more. It was ridiculous, and most of all, it wasn't fair to my partner. So, I wrote her a letter. It took a great deal of courage and a good many tears for me to get through this, but in the end I reflected that all my mother wanted was for me to be happy, and this man was making me happy (still is: :tongue. Most parents only want their children to be fulfilled and happy and out of danger.
What exactly is it in coming out to your parents that you fear the most? (add as many options as you can think of, and maybe address each option).
I don't know how to interpret the fact that they haven't said anything to you about you being gay. Maybe they are too discreet, some parents are like that... or possibly they are suspecting but they don't even want to think of it... because it makes them unconfortable? Is sexuality something that was discussed in your household? I get the feeling that there's a whole education missing there.
For me, the courage to disclose at last was because my mother invited me down for a weekend. I told her I had a friend staying with me. She said: "you can bring your friend too". That was when I realised that I didn't want to have to pretend that he was just a friend nothing more. It was ridiculous, and most of all, it wasn't fair to my partner. So, I wrote her a letter. It took a great deal of courage and a good many tears for me to get through this, but in the end I reflected that all my mother wanted was for me to be happy, and this man was making me happy (still is: :tongue. Most parents only want their children to be fulfilled and happy and out of danger.
What exactly is it in coming out to your parents that you fear the most? (add as many options as you can think of, and maybe address each option).