Why do gay men like anal sex?

[VampirePrincess]

First off, I want to make it clear that I mean to be in no way offensive. Just don't understand.

Anal sex seems to be a big thing with gay men. I'm not saying straight couples don't do it, but it's different, because in gay couples there are two men, and one of those men is going to have to be penetrated, be submissive during anal sex. It confuses me how that man would go for it, and how some gay men identify themselves as "bottoms". I don't know any straight man who would let his girlfriend give hom anal sex when she's wearing a strap-on. (Or maybe no straight guys would admit it?) I mean, gay men are still men. They're just like straight men except they happen to like males instead of females, right? Being gay doesn't make you like a female. So, my question is, why do lots of gay guys like to be penetrated while straight guys don't?

Sorry if I sound really ignorant ^^' I don't really know much about gay guys. I hope I didn't offend anyone! You like what you like and there's nothing wrong with that, just curious as to WHY you like it.

[Marvinteck]

I have two straight friends that are both married with kids. Both of them like having there wives do anal sex on them with a strap on. It may not be on a regular basis but it still happens. This really isnt a subject talked about by straight men outside of the bedroom so its not surprising no straight men have ran up to you declaring that they like taking up the ass. I dont completely understand the whole top bottom thing myself. Its a myth that all gay guys love anal sex. Some of us do like it and some of us dont like anal.

Why have anal sex?

If the bottom is lucky he will have his prostate stimulated while he is bottoming and that can be pleasurable in itself.

Some guys like to be submissive and dominated. They get off on the fact that they are the bottom partner because they like being not in control.

Sex is sex whether you are the top or bottom. It is still hot either way. You are still connecting with the person through physical contact. Its a ego boost knowing that some one wants to have sex with you.

The last reason I can think of off the top of my head for bottoming is to give the top pleasure by bottoming for them. I like being versatile myself. When I had a sexual partner we would take turns being top and bottom so both of us could get our rocks off. It was a "Ill bottom for you if you bottom for me" deal we had going.

[azulai]

Welcome to GS.
I think we are a very friendly forum and I understand when you say you don't mean to offend but how about introducing yourself a little?

You identify yourself as curious, rather than a gay-friendly straight woman. Are you just curious about male anal sex or are you also curious as in you may be interested in other women?

I think you are mistaken in thinking straight men are not interested in anal stimulation of the prostate. Maybe you should google prostate massage?

I'm a little confused by your statement:

...one of those men is going to have to be penetrated, be submissive during anal sex...

In your sex-life as a female, have you only been submissively penetrated? Have you never "ridden a man?" I've watched some straight porn and I've seen quite a few toppy females, so I'm curious about you. Do you only go for the standard missionary position?

I'm not meaning to be offensive in any way, I'm kind of curious about your view of heterosexual sexual practices and roles. mile:

Being gay is more than anal sex. Yes, anal sex is one way of sharing intimacy with another man but it is not what it's ALL about. Maybe it's not all tops or bottoms, but equality? Maybe it's not just sex but making love?

[Musiq]

Like Marvinteck says, there are those who like it and those who dont. I've actually done a little research on the whole 'prostate massage' and like he says those who actually do anal hope to have their prostate massaged while having, well yeah.... simply put the prostate has to do in part with your sexual responses, this is a reason why some or more gay men love it.

And there's a fair share of straight people who do it with their partners as well, from what i heard....

[Dieselman]

Being gay is more than anal sex. Yes, anal sex is one way of sharing intimacy with another man but it is not what it's ALL about. Maybe it's not all tops or bottoms, but equality? Maybe it's not just sex but making love?

Well said.....

Anal sex happens in straight relationships as well. I know even some guys that like a fist or two.....


DM

[fredv3b]

Spot on Jake. I completely agree there is no need to be submissive just because you are being penetrated.

[Braz]

First off, I want to make it clear that I mean to be in no way offensive. Just don't understand.

Anal sex seems to be a big thing with gay men. I'm not saying straight couples don't do it, but it's different, because in gay couples there are two men, and one of those men is going to have to be penetrated, be submissive during anal sex. It confuses me how that man would go for it, and how some gay men identify themselves as "bottoms". I don't know any straight man who would let his girlfriend give hom anal sex when she's wearing a strap-on. (Or maybe no straight guys would admit it?) I mean, gay men are still men. They're just like straight men except they happen to like males instead of females, right? Being gay doesn't make you like a female. So, my question is, why do lots of gay guys like to be penetrated while straight guys don't?

Sorry if I sound really ignorant ^^' I don't really know much about gay guys. I hope I didn't offend anyone! You like what you like and there's nothing wrong with that, just curious as to WHY you like it.

Welcome to the forum VampirePrincess. mile:
Well, i think when you meet someone sometimes you can tell what they are a top or bottom guy. Im a bottom coz i like the thought and being top does not interest me in a sexual way as im more of a fellower and knowing they lead in what they want. :tongue:
Everyone gay guy is different for there reasons in being top or bottom as top guys like to dom more and be in control of the submissive guy.
I like having anal sex only for expressing love even though it hurts coz i love the feel of expressing love for eachother while in a relationship as well as kissing and stuff. mile:

[Soulsolfelis]

Also, some couples feel anal is a more committed act in a relationship than say oral or a handjob.

It's like how as a lesbian I see tiers of comitment in various fxf activities

I have a citation for the first statement, if anyone wants it to look up.

[Crs30]

For me, bottoming goes beyond physical pleasure.

Before I had ever tried it, I was deathly afraid of causing some damage in there. While there is always risk with just about anything you could ever do, if you know what you're doing then you're pretty much good. So I decided to give it a shot. At first it was difficult, but now there is almost no pain involved. After going for a few minutes, there is no pain at all.

I can't say whether or not I know what it feels like to have my prostate stimulated, I just can't really tell. This part is weird to say so I'm just going to say it: I can't really feel what's going on in there, I only have sensation right around my sphincter. After it relaxes, it's easy.

When I'm giving a blowjob and I deepthroat, I think it's really hot that the whole thing is in my mouth. During anal, I think about the same thing: his entire penis is inside of me. I know my partner likes it, and I like giving him the pleasure.

[posterpicture]

I don't think being bottom or top associates much with dominated or submissive in real life. I can give myself as an example. When I ask my straight and gay friends the question so do you think I am a top or bottom ( either when I am single or when I compare myself with one of my date ). They all scream out "bottom". Yes, I like to be protected by a man, I like the feeling of being taken care of ( who doesn't? ), I like to cook my man good food, and I like to be held. But I am a top ( sometimes I am vers ) and I actually a dominate the bedroom.

As for the anal sex question, I don't really like to be penetrated. Not because I am not submissive. It 's just too hurt that I can't really take it. However, I do it sometimes as I want my sex partner to enjoy the pleasure and that way I feel very connected to him. But anal sex is not the only or best way to gain that kind of connection. There are hundreds another way that a man can make me feel more connected to him. Buy me flowers, cuddle with me, or simply have a nice and warm intellectual conversation together.