Bears and older men

[sweetlad2010]

Well I meet someone a year older than me and for now thats older enough. Its just a fantasy to go with or date older guys, so I can see me doing anything with 40 plus guys.

[interesting]

I think it's absolutely possible that an older and younger guy can form a stable relationship, if they're geniunely attracted to one another, then there shouldn't be any hang-ups. I think it's possible that a younger guy can admire an older guy's maturity, whether it be looks or just personality.

[Yuki]

@Interesting, I do agree with you. Although I would guess that that kind of stable relationship would only be a minority since younger guys would probably find someone who is either at the same age as them or at least a year or two younger or older than them.

[Goldenmane89]

I recently went through an "older guys" stage. Anywhere from 30's - 40's was a pretty big turn on...if they were still attractive and didn't look like old, dirty men. Still, sometimes they would get me really hot. I think, for some people, it can be a phase and for others it's what you like. I will say this, older guys are way better in the bedroom. You can learn and thing or two from how they "make love" and don't just "bang the crap outta you." What do they say about older men being like fine wine...?

[interesting]

@Interesting, I do agree with you. Although I would guess that that kind of stable relationship would only be a minority since younger guys would probably find someone who is either at the same age as them or at least a year or two younger or older than them.

I do agree that what is considered to be a stable relationship (I'm going to assume we mean no sugar daddy and rent boys) would confine a very small population of gay men who have big gaps in age. Yes, possible but rare, ala Tom Ford and his partner

[jeffrey]

If a relationship with a considerable age gap happens between two guys then that is great. I guess I think of the future too much. I dunno.

[Dat]

Depends on the relationship I guess. Using can be done on either end of the age spectrum so I don't see that as an issue. If you're blind to the fact that you are being used by a younger/older guy that really is on you.

Personally, I like looking at younger guys but we really don't have that much in common. Yeah, I'm active and run around acting a lot younger than I am, but when it comes to a relationship I want someone I can relate to. Someone in their 20's, 30's and even mid 40s just can't.

[charley]

I had a medium distance rel. w/a 50 y.o when 21-2, very respectful and fun and educational - and my lover is rather younger, but you know, I see it both ways, I think in the long run it could be unstable, but the idea of one rule book for everyone is gone and I think respect is the important thing, and of course then if you have no self respect you're going to get hurt one way or another... I think the important thing is that you like the other person, a friendly feeling, not trying to take advantage primarily... and that would go for other distinctions, I mean, it could be rich/poor, couldn't it, or some major differences all together like all of: race and religion and education level, yet those crazy mismatches sometimes work... I think we just need to be careful and remember that what makes two people like each other enough, over enough time, to sort of flourish, that is what's important. But I would say all that notwithstanding, 2 years older than me felt like older at 25-6... I guess it's a hard call. I would have to say "it depends."

Me, at late 40s my lower cut-off would realistically be about 30, upper about 70. I never thought in terms of a narrow "type" tho... so there's my "vote"

I don't know... but very interesting thread!