Boyfriend trouble

[bariuke]

Well, for me, this is pretty simple. In fact, this would make me pretty damn angry. Running of with an ex like this means, nearly without exception, that things are over or will be over soon. The fact that he can't just tell you he doesn't want to be with you is the infuriating part. If it were me, I'd dump him, and I'd dump him hard. Take the time while he's in Europe to get things straightened out and get yourself back on track.

[JShell1265]

I also agree with most people here, he's not caring about your feelings in the matter. I'm sorry you are going through this, but it would be a deal breaker for me too. : (

[SleepTalker]

I agree. I wouldnt want to put up with this. I would be spending every minute imagining what could be going on between the two. He should really think about your feelings. How would he feel if you just randomly went on a vacation with one of your ex-boyfriends? He would be just as uneasy if he really loves you.

[jbrowder24]

Does he really think his ex would offer him a free trip out of the goodness of his heart? I mean, I'm not saying it's impossible... but why weren't you invited too then, if it's moved on to a friend stage? I'm definitely sorry to hear that you guys have been fighting over it, and that he would choose to do what he wants to do regardless of how it makes you feel. I've actually been in a similar situation, but a guy I'd been with a shorter amount of time. Two years is already quite a history, so I hope you guys can get it worked out.

[SlipknotRlZZ]

Clearly he has his reasons to go with his ex on this trip, he can't be that dumb not to realize what's behind the offer. Lay it flat out to him you won't be played with, and if you have to, split up with him...you know what they say, let him go, if he was ever yours, he will come back. And I'mreally sorry things work out this way, really. :/

[marshlander]

I'm sorry to read you have been arguing about this for two days. Boyfriend or not you don't own him. He has to be the one to make up his own mind about this offer. Try to tie him down and he's bound to struggle harder.

A free trip to Europe? Why not? Europe is a great place ... actually Europe is many, many places. It may be the chance of a lifetime for him to experience something new. It is sad that you can't feel excited at his good fortune. I could comment on what would appear to be his lack of consideration for your feelings, but he's not the one who wrote the original message.

Clinging round his ankles while he wants to go on this trip will break a big hole in the relationship. Letting him go and thinking about all the motives that might be involved will break a big hole in your heart. If he goes, he will learn something about the world and about himself. He might just learn how much you are willing to sacrifice for him. He might learn that he cannot bear to be without you. However, try to nail his feet to the floor and he will resent it and come to resent you.

There is a reason why this man is his ex rather than his current partner. He may need to rediscover what that is.

Whatever happens now is going to be tough. You must feel as though you are in an impossible situation. It will only definitely be the end if you make it the end.