Okay I'll make this short as possible.
I'm 162 cm (5.3 ft). Today I was approached by a 6 ft muscular lad whilst waiting for a train. I felt so tiny and could not help to feel awkward. He actually made me feel nervous. I had to tilt up my head to speak to him.
This is not the first time I'm being approached by a really tall guy. It has happened a few times before. I responded the same way to every 6ft guy - Awkward, nervous and discomfort. It's bad enough I have problem communicating with 5 ft 5 inch guys.
Can anyone give me tips on how to confront taller guys? Anything that can help me feel less awkward and uncomfortable. It would be very much appreciated.
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Im six foot three inches (*). My suggestion would be stop putting guys that are taller than you up on a pedestal. Physically they may be taller but psychologically we all have our own insecurities. A persons personality counts for a whole lot more than how tall or short they are. At six foot three and weighing in over 235 pounds I have been scared of people half my size before because there personality was so much stronger than mine. Instead of putting tall people on a pedestal you should be viewing yourself as a equal to them. Taking that route should take some pressure off you and make you feel more at ease.
Being shorter may feel awkward to you some times but take a walk in a taller persons shoes for a second. Being too tall and towering over the people around you can be just as awkward if not more awkward than being short. People notice things that are different than them. Extremely short people and extremely tall people all to often get turned into freak shows. People some times will point, stare, whisper and on occasion take pictures. Consider yourself lucky you fall within the two extremes of being short and tall.
(*) Disclaimer: Im not actually six foot three inches. I am six foot two and a quarter inches. Six foot three inches has a much better ring to it so I round up the three quarters of a inch to make myself feel taller than I actually am. If you fudge slightly on your height no one is going to be the wiser unless they have a tape measure or you tell them.
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Gpbi & Marvinteck:
First of all thanks guys for responding to my thread. It is very much appreciated.
Yeah, I now realize that I wasn't being fair to the tall guys. I didn't think of how the tall guys feel as I was caught with my own insecurities. I realize that I have somewhat prejudged and judged guys based on their looks. It wasn't done intentionally but still.
Thanks guys for slapping off my brain regarding to this matter.
I'll do my best to see myself equal as the next guy that stands beside me. As Marvinteck said this method should help to reduce pressure.
Thanks again Gpbi and Marvinteck. Very much appreciated.
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im 5'11 and i still feel small around taller ppl.
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I'm 5'8 and I like shorter guys....BUT I always end up dating taller guys, usually between 6'1 and 6'5. I see tall guys as 'gentle giants' and very rarely find them intimidating at all. I actually find large guys intimidating but that would be because of my history when I was a young teenage boy, but it became so ingrained in my nature that it is my natural instinct to be intimidated with large guys.
Having said that I tend to get along well with large guys and girls, apparently I am passive aggressive, or that is what I am told by others, so I guess those that intimidate me are intimidated by my 'no bullshit' approach when they first meet me.
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I never think of a persons height really. It doesn't enter my mind unless the person is particularly tall or particularly short. I am 6ft, and that is on the upper end of average for the part of the world I live in. For me, there are far more important qualities in a person than their height. I tend to look at those first. I can know a person for months before I even think about whether they are taller or shorter than myself.
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Gilhooly:
Thanks gilhooly for the compliment. I didn't see that coming. Thanks.
I maybe small but well defined and muscular. I climb my office building's emergency staircase from ground floor to the 30th three times a week. Carrying dumbbells. I used to do it everyday but without dumbbells.
SleepTalker, dfiant and Inchante:
I believe another factor why guys particularly tall and big guys make me nervous is due to my once upon a time 'anti social' life. Five years ago (2005), I was a morbid obese lad. I got bullied a lot during those years.
In order to give 500% towards weight loss, I shut myself from the public for a few years. It was only me, my house and the jogging park. I returned to the society on 2009.
From 2009 - mid 2011, I was a confident guy. I didn't have problem communicating with my colleagues and clients but I became defensive, shy and a bit vulnerable when I was outside of my circle of trusted friends. Flirtation, being approached by guys etc. all these were culture shock to me.
I have drastically improved a lot by mid 2011. Something happened on May/June that pretty much knocked my head off. I am now more open, approachable and spontaneous in public. Admittedly I am still a bit shy towards guys who come and approach me. But not terribly shy as I used to.
Thanks for responding gilhooly, SleepTalker, dfiant and Inchante.
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