09-27-2011, 01:31 AM
Just like people have their own interests and personalities, sexuality is different for each person. We define people's sexuality based on superficial values. If a man has sex with men, he's gay. If a man has sex with a woman, he's straight. If a man has sex with both, he's bi. In my opinion, that's all a bit limiting.
I met a lesbian once who told me, after talking a bit, that she never, ever had any interest in men in her life. If that is true, then I would call this person 100% gay.
In my opinion, there are two parts to someone's orientation: physical/sexual, and emotional/psychological. There is the sexual part, which is the desire to have sex with one or both genders. This part I think is very fluid, but this alone I don't think defines someone's orientation. The emotional/psychological part is what I think is more important. What gender do you want to be with romantically? Which one would you feel more comfortable or relaxed being with?
Sex is sex. Most anyone, regardless of orientation is capable of having sex with the same gender and enjoy it, but it's who you want to be with that defines orientation.
I met a lesbian once who told me, after talking a bit, that she never, ever had any interest in men in her life. If that is true, then I would call this person 100% gay.
In my opinion, there are two parts to someone's orientation: physical/sexual, and emotional/psychological. There is the sexual part, which is the desire to have sex with one or both genders. This part I think is very fluid, but this alone I don't think defines someone's orientation. The emotional/psychological part is what I think is more important. What gender do you want to be with romantically? Which one would you feel more comfortable or relaxed being with?
Sex is sex. Most anyone, regardless of orientation is capable of having sex with the same gender and enjoy it, but it's who you want to be with that defines orientation.