Confused with my sexual status

[IkeLikesSnoopy]

Hey all,

I prefer not to say who I am... but I am 25 years old and have been in a relationship with a female for 4 years, I love her to death.

But... I came upon here to ask for your opinions and advice since I admit I have been masturbating to gay porn sometimes.

Does this make me gay? I get turned on by gay porn sometimes. It is confusing for me since I sometimes fantasise about giving oral sex to other men and yet I am not willing to have sex.

What are your thoughts?

[Aester]

Maybe its just curiosity. You do not know if you have never tried. But if you get turned by it you are likely to be Bi, if you don't prefer gay porn over to watch your girl friend i would call that being gay.

[pellaz]

It is confusing for me since I sometimes fantasise about giving oral sex to other men and yet I am not willing to have sex.

let me ask... "I am not willing to have sex" you are not willing to have sex with other men?

on one end if you are gay or bi ( and only a slight chance you are ), there is not much you can do about it. the other side its just porn.

nothing much you can do except love your wife.

[Londontool]

Don't over think it, if you enjoy it, go for it and don't beat yourself up about it. I think about all sorts of stuff when I wank that I know I will never do in real life.
Be happy in your relationship and don't feel the need to label your fantasies

[Sil]

I would say you're just curious on a fantasy level, I wouldn't start losing sleep over it. ^_^

you obviously love your lady very much and nothing's gonna stop that. People can have fantasies about all kinds of things that they don't want to act on. "I once had a dream about a baboon, that doesn't mean I want to go to bed with it." ~ Arnold Rimmer

It's fine to have same-sex thoughts. Really. I suspect a lot of people from either sex have at least considered it.

Focus on what's important to you, being an awesome boyfriend with an open mind

[mrk2010]

Don't be in a rush to label yourself buddy, you might just be curious. Sexuality isn't clean cut sometimes and it takes some wrapping round your head. Don't think just because you get off on gay porn that you are immediately gay, you could be bi curious or bisexual or it could even be a new experience for you because it seems taboo and it's naughty and wrong in your mind. Also you may like the fact it is just fantasy, we don't act upon everything we think or fantasize about. I wish you the best of luck. mile:

[LateBloomer]

Don't be in a rush to label yourself buddy, you might just be curious. Sexuality isn't clean cut sometimes and it takes some wrapping round your head. Don't think just because you get off on gay porn that you are immediately gay, you could be bi curious or bisexual or it could even be a new experience for you because it seems taboo and it's naughty and wrong in your mind. Also you may like the fact it is just fantasy, we don't act upon everything we think or fantasize about. I wish you the best of luck. mile:

Couldn't have said it better myself. Exactly my thoughts.

[dfiant]

I like to look at the shy and clouds...does that make me a meteorologist?

I like to look at mansions, does that make me a millionaire?

They are all curious to me, but I am neither of the above, but until I act on either of those curiosities and am neither.

[zeon]

Hello,
Dont rush into conclusions because alot of hetrosexual men go through this phase and of course do with other men discreetly.... My best advice to you is dont base your sexuality on who you want to have sex with because sex is sex.... Base it on who you would like to be in a relationship with... I learnt at a young age women wasnt for me and left my girlfriend.... It does get confusing but if you are bi or gay accept it and be free from worry

Kindest regards

zeon x

[LateBloomer]

I like to look at the shy and clouds...does that make me a meteorologist?

I like to look at mansions, does that make me a millionaire?

They are all curious to me, but I am neither of the above, but until I act on either of those curiosities and am neither.

Ooh, I like this.
Can I use it sometime?