11-16-2007, 10:37 AM
Hokay so, following-on from Hellocake's thread about people's use (or misuse) of the word "gay" when they say "that's so GAY", I thought I'd start up a thread about a similar term that gets under my skin a bit, and that's when people say "how's your FRIEND" when they mean your boyfriend ... or "(Shadow) has a FRIEND that stays with him" rather than he has a BOYfriend.
Similar to "that's so GAY", describing your boyfriend as your "friend" makes them, on a strict interpretation of the phrase (to my mind) indistinguishable from your other "friends" so when people say "(Shadow) has a FRIEND", I usually answer saying "I have several actually" ... but what gets under my skin is that it just sounds so condescending ?
It's almost like I feel I'm being patted on the head by a grown-up when it's being said, y'know ?
I'm an adult, I'm a homo. Don't PATRONISE me muthaf*cka !! .
What are you thoughts on this ?
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
Similar to "that's so GAY", describing your boyfriend as your "friend" makes them, on a strict interpretation of the phrase (to my mind) indistinguishable from your other "friends" so when people say "(Shadow) has a FRIEND", I usually answer saying "I have several actually" ... but what gets under my skin is that it just sounds so condescending ?
It's almost like I feel I'm being patted on the head by a grown-up when it's being said, y'know ?
I'm an adult, I'm a homo. Don't PATRONISE me muthaf*cka !! .
What are you thoughts on this ?
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!