11-15-2011, 01:15 AM
I am a 25 year old bisexual woman. I have been in relationships with both women and men alike. I have been in monogamous and open relationships. This is where the problem lies...
I have been with a 28 year old man for about one year and one month. In the beginning, my bisexuality wasn't a huuuuge deal and he was somewhat curious about it. He even said 70% of him wants to watch me with another woman. But then with more feelings comes more complications. And eventually, he didn't want to share me with anyone anymore. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't want to share him either, but he also seems to have no desire to share or be shared.
I hate to come off as your stereotypical bisexual where I want my cake and eat it, too. I just can't help it. I barely look at guys, but I can't help myself from staring at girls. That desire to be with a woman is driving me crazy. And not just sexually but romantically; companionship. I feel so horrible. He's such a good man and loves me so much, but he's insecure about my bisexuality.
I'm so afraid if I stay in this relationship, I'll just end up hurting him. I am in love with him. I really am. Either I leave him to explore my options, have a polyamorous relationship (which I doubt he'd accept) or stay with him. I could be happy or regret any of these decisions. I just don't know what to do. My intentions are pure. I've never cheated. Help!
-Violetta
I have been with a 28 year old man for about one year and one month. In the beginning, my bisexuality wasn't a huuuuge deal and he was somewhat curious about it. He even said 70% of him wants to watch me with another woman. But then with more feelings comes more complications. And eventually, he didn't want to share me with anyone anymore. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't want to share him either, but he also seems to have no desire to share or be shared.
I hate to come off as your stereotypical bisexual where I want my cake and eat it, too. I just can't help it. I barely look at guys, but I can't help myself from staring at girls. That desire to be with a woman is driving me crazy. And not just sexually but romantically; companionship. I feel so horrible. He's such a good man and loves me so much, but he's insecure about my bisexuality.
I'm so afraid if I stay in this relationship, I'll just end up hurting him. I am in love with him. I really am. Either I leave him to explore my options, have a polyamorous relationship (which I doubt he'd accept) or stay with him. I could be happy or regret any of these decisions. I just don't know what to do. My intentions are pure. I've never cheated. Help!
-Violetta