I have a medical condition called Phimosis, which is a condition in which the foreskin of my penis doesn't fully retract. This problem has taken a serious toll in my self confidence, and often times I will refuse to have sex with someone. I feel like it's hideous and it will scare my partner away, so i often just satisfy them with a blowjob or something. I wanted to see if anyone has or knows someone with this condition, and if they could give me tips on how to embrace this condition. Any help would be appreciated.
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I dated someone who had it, and he was very self-conscious about it. I know he felt very much the same way you do about it, but it didn't really bother me. However, have you talked to a doctor about circumcision? If it is causing you a lot of distress, and sometimes it can cause actual physical discomfort during sex, so it might be worth your time to look at surgical correction. It depends on how severe it is, and how much it really bothers you.
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I had to google that condition, it doesn't look comfortable and I can understand why you would be self conscious with the condition.
As Pip has already asked, have you sought medical advice? Is corrective surgery and option?
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I also had to Google that condition too and all I can say is you poor dear it does look so uncomfortable. I hope you get the best medical help for it...
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I had the same thing, It was terrible and effected my self-esteem greatly. I wouldn't even touch it! About 7 years ago I got snipped it was the best decision of my life!
The doctor and I talked about stretching but it sounded too painful and he said it could possibly go back to the way it was in a couple of years.
The other thing is that there is a true risk of infection that could cause ongoing problems later in life
Hope all works out
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i would look into all of your options before you consider any surgury, because once you do that it is forever. im pretty sure they have creams and other methods , besides getting cut or just streching, hope it works out for you.
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Carefully study your options and think about what you really want. You also need a through understanding of what circumcision is. Some men like it and some have deep regrets. Many that regret being circumcised have had most, it not all, of the sensitive mucosal tissue removed. We have several men on the foreskin restoration forums that state that the sensitivity of their penises has been greatly reduced by adult and infant circumcision. A steroid cream called betamethasone may help with the problem if you decide to stretch the opening of the foreskin.
If you do opt for circumcision you need to decide what style you want. Don't rush into anything. You only get one shot at this and the effects are permanent. Should you choose circumcision you would be well advised to see a surgeon that specializes in the procedure. Dr. Reed in Miami would be a good choice. He will do the procedure the way you want it. Many physicians do a poor job when it comes to circumcision. Just keep in mind that the inner foreskin is the most sensitive part of the penis. If you have too much removed you may suffer from delayed ejaculation due to loss of erogenous sensation. Furthermore, it may be that your frenulum is causing the phimosis. A custom circumcision may cost around $2500.00 - 3000.00 dollars, but you'll only do it once.
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