Date suggestions

[azulai]

Be careful with the flower. You mention meeting up. Where is he going to put the flower? Hold it all night? Put it in his coat pocket? (Sorry if I'm making an assumption, it's just you mention "city" and I'm thinking NY City--subways/cabs.)

I think miniature golf is a great idea.
"You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” ~Plato
It will also give you time to laugh, have fun and relax.

I don't see anything wrong with your initial idea of dinner and movie/play. Maybe go to the movie/play first and then dinner so if you are nervous you have time to calm yourself down during the show (or make yourself more nervous.:biggrin and then you can discuss things about it over dinner-->you have a natural first topic of conversation.

Another thing is maybe don't get a dessert at the same place you have dinner. If there is some neat specialty place you like, go there after. Share something you like. Walking (if it's nearby), moonlight, romance...

Have fun! mile:

[ManicReptile21]

I say do the movie first so you have an insta-topic to talk about at the dinner thereafter, plus you'll both be hungry and that'll lead to conversation on food! you could throw the club in there somewhere. but leave it at that, i think you should want a date to be short and snappy and aquire as much info about the person you are dating as you can. if its short you'll always want to do it more because you make sure there is never enough time to talk about everything. if its a long date, you both will run out of things to do and the night will end slowly and groggy. you want to steal yourself away from him so he can stay awake and be focused! its a clever way to keep conversations bustling and you can insert the romance whenever the two of you are ready. just my suggestion though. im no dating expert, i just mess with reality alot and make things very linear until i feel im ready to take it a step further. then i dive in for the catch by demanding he comes back to my place! and from there i can declare him my boyfriend and proceed to do my romantic letters of love etc etc etc. (and then he dumps me and i am all heart broken----IM NOT BITTER-- lol)

[icanuc]

Hi and welcome CSL,

You can't go wrong with dinner and a movie, followed by coffee.

For a first date I think I would do the dinner thing and maybe a walk if possible. Just get to know each other a bit better. Coffee would be ok or a drink would be good. As for a movie on a first date I would say that is not a good idea. You dont get to talk through a movie and it also shows NO imagination. I personally dont find the movie a good choice on the first date.

Many may disagree about the movie thing but maybe leave it until you know each other better. Then when you date another time you could pick a movie together to go and see.

You want to leave him with a good impression and wanting to go on the second date. Silence is not what you want to have on a first date.

[cmj1985]

the best first date i have ever been taken on was by my current bf he took me out for a romantic dinner (candle light, and soft music in the backround) then we were off to a game of mini-golf, followed by a game of lazer tag (so much fun) and we finally took a walk around the park holding hands and just a great convo still the best night of my life

[John]

Just pick a good restaurant and spend your night there together with the sweet guy...it's a good chance for u two to get to know each other more! good luck!

[undercoverforev]

Regarding the post above about going to a movie, DO NOT DO THAT!! Sitting next to a stranger you've only had one meal with throughout an entire movie (which may have sex scenes) is probably one of the most awkward things I can think of.

MY ADVICE:
1. Start off the night with a nice and quiet EARLY dinner (I'll explain why in a bit). If you want to surprise him, it doesn't need to be with flashing lights and jumping out of a plane. Choose a small restaurant with amazing food, and show him that you know your stuff! Surprise him with this little gem of a restaurant, hopefully something the two of you can remember for the rest of your lives.
2. Take a walk together around wherever it is that you live. FInd somewhere somewhat private, but not too private that the two of you could get mugged . If the conversation goes well and it seems like neither of you wants to part way, go find somewhere cute to go get desserts and/or coffee. Of course, keep the eating to a reasonable level, as you don't want him to be on a date with a whale . And also, your "walk" should be on a pre-determined path, where you can just so happen to "stumble" upon a cute cafe.

Good luck and I hope to hear back!

[CSL]

oh wow guys... you are awesome!... I guess it was a good idea to post on here... I have not been able to get on this website until now (the day before) work has me busy and a bit stressed but I def have been giving it some thoughts and the funny part is that some of you actually suggested what I finally decided on...

the flower thing I was only planning on getting him a single white (maybe yellow since it is his favorite color) flower sort of symbolizing our first date and and the non-red color to express friendship and pureness... friendship is key to me.

ok so here is the plan...

We will be meeting in the city somewhere near the restaurant but not too close so we can have time to walk and talk (I hate that it is freezing out!)... Then if dinner goes well I was planning on going to my favorite bakery, Magnolia's, that way we can take a walk and talk some more... Magnolia's is really close to this movie theater which we may go to... I am allowing the night to sort of determine what we will do after dinner and dessert.

I have been talking a lot to him the past few days so that has calm my nerves a bit and I am looking forward to it...

So what do you think?... I will def keep you guys posted... I really Appreciate your suggestions!

[CSL]

oh and the grabbing a drink idea... I have tried it and it FAILED badly.... but that is another topic

[OrphanPip]

There's no real perfect first date, because everyone will have different preferences. I think, generally, the best idea is activities where you can talk easily. I tend to prefer coffee shops, but I've done the art gallery/museum thing too, which is good because it also provides you objects to talk about if any awkward silences turn up. I think a movie is a decent way to end a date.

I kind of agree with azulai about the flower thing too, flowers are nice on special occasions but a bit awkward on a regular date haha.

Bars are a pain, too loud.

[gilhooly]

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