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Mark · 12-02-2007, 07:59 PM

shadow Wrote:Awwwwwwwww babe ! I'm really sorry to hear you had to go through that :frown:.

People can be @rseholes sometimes :mad:.

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Yups they can.. But then theres no way of being able to anticipate someones reaction so much..

12-02-2007, 08:10 PM

Indeed, and fortunately Harry knows that too I think Confused

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Mark · 12-02-2007, 08:12 PM

Yups. Harry Im just wondering.. Have you had any gay experiences and can you be 100% sure your gay? I know you dont NEED experiences to be gay, well you kinda do, but you know what I mean!, just I dont want you to go through any pain which may not be needed.. :frown:

12-03-2007, 01:22 PM

first to my family i think they are gonna kill me or somthing like this Tongue

to my friends im not sure from everyone but i think some of them will tell everybody about it cuz in the past i was alws say GAY OMG thats suck ewwwww Tongue

but now i discoverd im gay so Tongue

and some peoples were trying to sleep with me Tongue

and i sayed im gonna tell everybody that your are gay and i did Smile

if they knew im gay im sure they will try again and if i didnt accept they will tell everybody and im really gonna have problems and im not ready to have sex or somthing now and if i was not with these guys they are badguys Sad

they just wanna have sex and then you i`ll never see them again

12-03-2007, 02:05 PM

Ok so, just so we're all on the same page ...

You think that your family would have serious problems with your sexuality if they were to find out ... so obviously you will have to be very very careful when you're dealing with them on this issue ...

... and as for your friends ...

Quote:in the past i was alws say GAY OMG thats suck ewwwww but now i discoverd im gay so and some peoples were trying to sleep with me and i sayed im gonna tell everybody that your are gay and i did

You're saying that in the past, one or more of your friends tried to get you to sleep with them ... and you responded by telling all of your friends that they were gay ?

That was perhaps not such a great idea ... as the phrase "turnabout's fair play" springs to mind, and it might be the case that they would capitalise on the opportunity to make things more difficult for you were they to learn of your sexuality.

How old is/are these people please ? When did they try and get you to sleep with them ? I'm guessing that the age of majority for heterosexuals in Saudi Arabia is not 16 ? So odds are they were trying to coerce you into having underage sex with them ... is that correct ?

I'm afraid this is becoming rather convoluted ... :confused:.

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12-03-2007, 06:12 PM

there`s toooooo many people who tried to sleep with me but there ages maybe about 16-20 somthing like that and they started about 2 years ago but my friends alws say becareful from those people butttt today when i was talking to a new friend he asked me why did we became friend i sayd i dont know maybe cuz your are a good guy but he sayed no this is not the real reason then his friend asked me your gay right?? and you fell in love with him i sayed what nononononono Tongue

they sayed if you are not gay so tell us why ?? i sayed i dont know but im not gay and i didnt fell in love with him but they think im gay and now i dont know what to do im afraid if they told anybody else maybe all the school will know about it so i dont know should i tell his friends the truth but they must keep it a secret but im not sure if the boy is gay and if he wasnt will he accept it or not?

12-04-2007, 02:37 PM

plz can somebody tell what to do? im soooo confused today they was talking about it and every body in the class heared now every body says why are talking to him why did sit infront of him do you want to play with OMG

12-04-2007, 03:16 PM

Denial is both the most predictable human emotion, and one of the EASIEST defence mechanisms of the closeted homosexual. How can they prove you're gay ? They can't ... if you want to keep it from them, just deny it !

Tell them they're talking bollocks and that it's really starting to get to you because obviously being gay IS such a big deal in SA. You might be able to glean a lot from their responses - some might turn around and say "it's not really THAT big a deal - I mean it's not like you're an axe murderer or something".

Ordinarily I do not advocate denial as a path, but things seem to be rapidly outpacing you, and if YOU don't take ahold of this situation and bend it to your will, then it might just put you in some RATHER awkward positions ...

That's my counsel, at any road ...

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Mark · 12-04-2007, 06:29 PM

I personally think that you do need to stop running and come to a decision as it will simply end up hurting you more and more. :frown:

12-05-2007, 05:51 PM

do you mean that i have to come out to my family dude they might kill me Tongue

i told you its forbidden