12-05-2007, 01:27 AM
Sometimes i feel like i ve become emotionally detached from situations and people. At work i have to treat things with 100% logic and this extents to my every day life and my relationships with people. Or better say new people. I show no emotion except when i smile and laugh.
I thought about it and came with a couple of reasons. Initially this started i believe when i was struggling accepting my sexuality but not it's not all related to that alone. I avoid making an attachment with people and use a no non-sense approach which can give a wrong message. I wouldnt say i have been always like that, i guess i have been adapted to the circumstances and life style i have, just to mention one for example like been away from home.
I see it as a build in defense and self control mechanism i have developed for myself. It got me through in situations of crisis and saves me from disappointments. Stay calm and even if i am panicked or terrified not show it. However this got me through the shock when i heard someone from my family had cancer , and someone else had difficult time with basically everything health related and lost all teeth in age 36 and is infertile.
Also prefer not to get personal or share a lot of information with others about myself or what is happening fearing that i will seem weird or needy and be rejected by someone i wouldn't want to. therefore i am become totally the opposite, overly proud and self sufficient ; never ask for help or show that i might need a helpful hand at times. Not saying its wrong or right however thats what i do and sometimes it just builds that wall between you and the world and at the end makes you feel isolated.
I have been thinking i have to make a change as especially yesterday it hit me in the face like a harsh truth and i have to loosen up a little become more human again and happier within.
Not sure what change should i do but if you have a sound suggestion share it with me. Or should i just keep it that way and get on with it as is not that bad ?
Ah there you go... i feel better already!
I thought about it and came with a couple of reasons. Initially this started i believe when i was struggling accepting my sexuality but not it's not all related to that alone. I avoid making an attachment with people and use a no non-sense approach which can give a wrong message. I wouldnt say i have been always like that, i guess i have been adapted to the circumstances and life style i have, just to mention one for example like been away from home.
I see it as a build in defense and self control mechanism i have developed for myself. It got me through in situations of crisis and saves me from disappointments. Stay calm and even if i am panicked or terrified not show it. However this got me through the shock when i heard someone from my family had cancer , and someone else had difficult time with basically everything health related and lost all teeth in age 36 and is infertile.
Also prefer not to get personal or share a lot of information with others about myself or what is happening fearing that i will seem weird or needy and be rejected by someone i wouldn't want to. therefore i am become totally the opposite, overly proud and self sufficient ; never ask for help or show that i might need a helpful hand at times. Not saying its wrong or right however thats what i do and sometimes it just builds that wall between you and the world and at the end makes you feel isolated.
I have been thinking i have to make a change as especially yesterday it hit me in the face like a harsh truth and i have to loosen up a little become more human again and happier within.
Not sure what change should i do but if you have a sound suggestion share it with me. Or should i just keep it that way and get on with it as is not that bad ?
Ah there you go... i feel better already!