I love a co-worker and don't know what to do.

[RomanticMan]

Just ask him if he's gay or not. like literally just send the message "You're not gay are you? because if you are i'd like to go out for coffee sometime. But if you're not then that's cool too."

and if you need to hit the red alert button and you dont wanna come out to him say, "LOL, this is his best friend "Emma" and RomanticMan and i are at a party and we took each others phones and are drunk texting everyone, idk you but have a great night byeeeeee"

than claim it was the best party you ever went to and say emma got shitfaced and had to go to the ER and is now attending AA meetings.  LOL XD seriously though just ask him. dont even bring your emotions and feelings into it, just ask him if hes into woman or men and bring up the queer conversation. and if he hates gays than you'll DEFINITELY be better off with that knowledge

In a country where homosexuality is considered very bad, nobody is going to say ''Yes, im gay''. But maybe... I can tell ''I dont know what your sexual orientation but if you'd like to meet some day, I'll be here'' or something like that. But I need that COURAGE to say it.

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Hi

Say you find out he is interested in more, how would it work out going forward? You have said he now lives far away, do you think you could make something work? Or do you think it’s more about just knowing if he would like you in that way?

I would think hard about the pros and cons about finding out and if he can give you whatever you are after long term. Maybe see this as a sign you just want someone in general and pursue easier / more local dating opportunities.

Good luck however it plays out

He's been in a long-distance relationship before. So that wouldnt be a problem to him I suppose. And when it comes to me... I think i could move, it shouldnt be that difficult. it's not more about knowing if he likes me that way. There's been some people I got suspected they might like me but I never cared. If i didnt like him, i wouldn't care honestly.