08-13-2016, 08:49 AM
Here is my story: (Keep in mind he is my first/only everything basically)
Our relationship started as long distance. We really got to know each other through talking/video chat. He came to visit me (8 hour away) a few times and sparks flew. We dated long distance for 6-8 months. How could I find someone more perfect than him? I was 19 and he was 20 (now 24 and 25). I eventually moved in with him which meant I had to move away from everything I knew. Things were great although it went down hill fast but we've been stuck in a rut. Both supporting each other and getting through college. It's been pretty much sexless these past 5 years. Things were great when he came to meet me when he could but not much when I moved in. Maybe oral sex or jack each other off a few times a month if I'm lucky. That's it, nothing else. I have had every opportunity in the world to cheat but resisted. That's how much I care for this man. However, it's been super rocky lately. He is bi (although he won't fully admit that to me). I caught him on Grindr and some other apps. I looked through it all and he was sexting (guys and girls). He swore up and down that that was it. He has never met anyone in person. This really didn't bother me as much as it probably should have. I don't know why. I told him I didn't really care as long as he would please make it a point to focus on me more. I'm open to a lot more stuff than he realizes even though I try to talk to him about it and it's like he is too scared to talk to me. Anyways, what I need advice on is should I allow him to explore his bi side? Should I talk to him about an open relationship that allows me to experience more since he is my first and for him to get the satisfaction from a woman?
TL
R-
5 year relationship (we are young, first and only for me, he's had few partners before)
He's bi, I'm gay
Virtually sexless relationship
BF caught sneaking around on apps but no physical sex (talked to guys/girls)
Q: Should I talk to him about being more open to allow us to explore (me guys, him girls/guys ) so we are not sexually frustrated all the time?
Our relationship started as long distance. We really got to know each other through talking/video chat. He came to visit me (8 hour away) a few times and sparks flew. We dated long distance for 6-8 months. How could I find someone more perfect than him? I was 19 and he was 20 (now 24 and 25). I eventually moved in with him which meant I had to move away from everything I knew. Things were great although it went down hill fast but we've been stuck in a rut. Both supporting each other and getting through college. It's been pretty much sexless these past 5 years. Things were great when he came to meet me when he could but not much when I moved in. Maybe oral sex or jack each other off a few times a month if I'm lucky. That's it, nothing else. I have had every opportunity in the world to cheat but resisted. That's how much I care for this man. However, it's been super rocky lately. He is bi (although he won't fully admit that to me). I caught him on Grindr and some other apps. I looked through it all and he was sexting (guys and girls). He swore up and down that that was it. He has never met anyone in person. This really didn't bother me as much as it probably should have. I don't know why. I told him I didn't really care as long as he would please make it a point to focus on me more. I'm open to a lot more stuff than he realizes even though I try to talk to him about it and it's like he is too scared to talk to me. Anyways, what I need advice on is should I allow him to explore his bi side? Should I talk to him about an open relationship that allows me to experience more since he is my first and for him to get the satisfaction from a woman?
TL
R- 5 year relationship (we are young, first and only for me, he's had few partners before)
He's bi, I'm gay
Virtually sexless relationship
BF caught sneaking around on apps but no physical sex (talked to guys/girls)
Q: Should I talk to him about being more open to allow us to explore (me guys, him girls/guys ) so we are not sexually frustrated all the time?
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