I want to out my first lover, but I know it's wrong!

[Shmgent]

My first lover from High School used to at least talk to me every few years but now he won't even add me to Facebook or return calls or emails. I really have a raging desire to out him since I just found out he just married to a woman! I know he never wanted to acknowledge his being gay, but man he loved his cock and to get fucked. He's pretty redneck so I get it that it's still not acceptable in his circle of friends but i can see it has torn him up all these years to not accept who he is.*

Some quick facts for perspective
I am 41 and he is 40.
Our last sexual encounter was 17 years ago.
Our last contact was 3 years ago
I'm out and in a long term relationship but he was my first love and I still think of him almost every day.

My desire is to somehow get message to his redneck brothers and wife to out him without identifying myself. His brothers always suspected me but I haven't talked to them in 20 years and they don't know I'm out. I know they always suspected him also.