08-29-2012, 04:40 PM
You don't mention what your home environment was like growing up. That can play a key role. If it was one in which homosexuality was presented as wrong, bad or very negative, then, of course you would quickly learn to repress any such feelings and thoughts very young.
Second, not all of us fit into any of the predefined labels for sexuality. Heterosexual, homosexual, asexual and, pansexual are just man made labels that fit people about as well as a one size too small pair of shoes. Sure we can squeeze it on, but it ins't 100% comfortable and, for some, the shoes are about five sizes off and won't fit at all. Sometimes it takes 2 to different shoes to make them even come close to fitting us.
The first step in figuring out your own sexuality is to stop trying to cram it in one of the man made boxes and just let yourself see what it is. The you take that and run with it, if it turns out to mostly fit in one of those boxes, then you identify as that because it's socially easier that way, if not, that's okay, you need two boxes, or simply have to make a new box.
I mean what turns you on, men, women, beasts, gender abnormalities (Buck Angel for one)? A little of all of it (Pansexual fits that well, by the way.) None of that? Whatever works for you, it's normal and perfectly fine to feel that way, and act on those feelings and desires, it's all a part of who you are, and, no matter what your sexuality is, you are a wonderful person, and you are just the way you are supposed to be.
Second, not all of us fit into any of the predefined labels for sexuality. Heterosexual, homosexual, asexual and, pansexual are just man made labels that fit people about as well as a one size too small pair of shoes. Sure we can squeeze it on, but it ins't 100% comfortable and, for some, the shoes are about five sizes off and won't fit at all. Sometimes it takes 2 to different shoes to make them even come close to fitting us.
The first step in figuring out your own sexuality is to stop trying to cram it in one of the man made boxes and just let yourself see what it is. The you take that and run with it, if it turns out to mostly fit in one of those boxes, then you identify as that because it's socially easier that way, if not, that's okay, you need two boxes, or simply have to make a new box.
I mean what turns you on, men, women, beasts, gender abnormalities (Buck Angel for one)? A little of all of it (Pansexual fits that well, by the way.) None of that? Whatever works for you, it's normal and perfectly fine to feel that way, and act on those feelings and desires, it's all a part of who you are, and, no matter what your sexuality is, you are a wonderful person, and you are just the way you are supposed to be.
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