How to make my dad love me?

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Some of us "older" folks were raised with very strict gender models.

Men do not hug anyone except their wives, they especially do not hug other males PERIOD.
Men do not cry, not ever, not for any reason.
Men show they love their family by providing for them, not by saying "I love you." That is understood because they provide for you.
Men discipline and teach.

Women cook
Women clean
Women hug the kids
Women cry

And for a man to do those thinks makes him look weak or spineless, hen pecked.

I know it's a horrible way to think, but that is how many of us were raised, and if we don't have a reason to defy those rules and become softer, more expressive people , we probably won't. I had a ton of reasons but, I'd bet your father gets on just fine as he is and, since your mom understands that, he has no reason to change.