09-16-2012, 02:27 AM
I just want to add my two cents...
I got married thirteen years ago. We liked each other a lot, but neither of us was truly in love. For the longest time (since high school), I told myself I wasn't gay, that I was bi, simply because it would be easier to have that notion of having a traditional family. All this time later, I see my thought processes as they were, but I can't regret it because we have two children I love more than anyone or thing.
Based on this small nugget of my experience, I want to offer you this advice: If you ever get married or enter into a long-term relationship, do it for love. Be open to what life (or "God," if you prefer) sends your way.
I'm not saying the label of "bisexual" is a cop-out. I truly believe many people are, and I have my "straight" crushes, but to be honest, those are just physical, pretty boy crushes, and emotionally, I can't stand straight guys for more than just friends. In my estimation, I don't consider this to make me bi. Would I do Adam Levine given a chance? Quite possibly (he is very pretty!). But I have no interest in a relationship.
The point is, allow your mind to open to the possibilities. How does thinking this or that make you feel? Can you imagine being with a man or woman for the rest of your life (or more than one)?
I'm falling asleep here, so I'll stop before it stops making sense. Hopefully it made enough sense to help!
I got married thirteen years ago. We liked each other a lot, but neither of us was truly in love. For the longest time (since high school), I told myself I wasn't gay, that I was bi, simply because it would be easier to have that notion of having a traditional family. All this time later, I see my thought processes as they were, but I can't regret it because we have two children I love more than anyone or thing.
Based on this small nugget of my experience, I want to offer you this advice: If you ever get married or enter into a long-term relationship, do it for love. Be open to what life (or "God," if you prefer) sends your way.
I'm not saying the label of "bisexual" is a cop-out. I truly believe many people are, and I have my "straight" crushes, but to be honest, those are just physical, pretty boy crushes, and emotionally, I can't stand straight guys for more than just friends. In my estimation, I don't consider this to make me bi. Would I do Adam Levine given a chance? Quite possibly (he is very pretty!). But I have no interest in a relationship.
The point is, allow your mind to open to the possibilities. How does thinking this or that make you feel? Can you imagine being with a man or woman for the rest of your life (or more than one)?
I'm falling asleep here, so I'll stop before it stops making sense. Hopefully it made enough sense to help!
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