09-16-2012, 02:26 AM
I am going to be blunt here and I may be wrong of course but just in case you need to hear it...here goes.
People who think other people are cheating are often projecting their own thoughts or actions on to the other person. Alot of people want to see themselves as "pure and virtuous" for reasons that escape me and the truth is they have alot of sexual fantasies about other people that they may not be able to own or face up to because they are supposed to be true to their lover and uphold some kind fo false image of themselves...they usually disassociate their own behavior and project this to their partners or assume their partners are doing the same thing. This is VERY COMMON and it is hard to hear and usually the messenger gets shot but I think you might need to hear it.
Spying on him is something you KNOW that you did. It is completely unacceptable and if you address anything you should stop worrying about what he MAY be doing and address what you definitely ARE doing.
People who think other people are cheating are often projecting their own thoughts or actions on to the other person. Alot of people want to see themselves as "pure and virtuous" for reasons that escape me and the truth is they have alot of sexual fantasies about other people that they may not be able to own or face up to because they are supposed to be true to their lover and uphold some kind fo false image of themselves...they usually disassociate their own behavior and project this to their partners or assume their partners are doing the same thing. This is VERY COMMON and it is hard to hear and usually the messenger gets shot but I think you might need to hear it.
Spying on him is something you KNOW that you did. It is completely unacceptable and if you address anything you should stop worrying about what he MAY be doing and address what you definitely ARE doing.
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